Why do people consider being happy a bad thing?

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I’m a very happy person, I love life and everything in it. I really can’t see why people think its annoying. Its not like I go around school hugging trees and shoving my beliefs in everyone face. I just tend to smile a lot and seek out the good in everyone even if it takes a lifetime.
I get told at least once a day that I should stop being happy. I really can’t comprehend that. Why go through life sad? And do you find that a bad thing, being happy and all?

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  1. Wow. I’m so happy (excuse the pun) that I came across your comment d_r_siva. Thank you for such an honest and informative reply to a question that I am glad to see another person asking.
    Dear World,
    Smile. It’s worth it.. 🙂
    Regards,
    Me.

  2. Happiness is generic, and is applied to almost every
    kind of enjoyment except that of the animal appetites.
    Only saint-like persons, who feel that they are no
    longer interested in the external world, think that
    happiness is within. For many persons, nothing can make
    them happy. Our minds are as different as our finger
    prints – no two are alike. Listening to loud music
    makes one happy and makes another unhappy. Hence, there
    can be no single definition for happiness. It is
    probably impossible to objectively define happiness as
    humans know and understand it, as internal experiences
    are subjective by nature. Because of this, explaining
    happiness as experienced by one individual is as
    pointless as trying to define the color green such that
    a completely color blind person could understand the
    experience of seeing green.
    As a state and a subject, it has been pursued and
    commented on extensively throughout world history.
    “Call no man happy till he is dead.” – Aeschylus
    “True happiness arises, in the first place, from the
    enjoyment of one’s self, and in the next, from the
    friendship and conversation of a few select
    companions.” – Joseph Addison
    Happiness is often associated with the presence of
    favourable circumstances such as a supportive family
    life, a loving marriage, and economic stability. Kali
    Yuga, the age of darkness, is the time when these
    favourables are difficult to find.
    Unfavorable circumstances – such as abusive
    relationships, accidents, loss of employment, and
    conflicts – diminish the amount of happiness a person
    experiences. In all nations, factors such as hunger,
    disease, crime, corruption, and warfare can decrease
    happiness. However, according to several ancient and
    modern thinkers, happiness is influenced by the
    attitude and perspective taken on such circumstances.
    From the observation that fish must become happy by
    swimming, and birds must become happy by flying.
    Aristotle points to the unique abilities of man as the
    route to happiness. Of all the animals only man can sit
    and contemplate reality. Of all the animals only man
    can develop social relations to the political level.
    Thus the contemplative life of a monk or a professor, or
    the political life of a military commander or
    a politician will be the happiest according to their own
    “psyche”.
    Our minds are as different as our finger prints – no two
    are alike.
    The following is the self-reported positive affect
    (i.e. positive emotion) during the day by 909 employed
    women in USA:
    Activities and their positive effect index:
    Intimate relations 5.10
    Socializing 4.59
    Relaxing 4.42
    Pray/Worship/Meditate 4.35
    Eating 4.34
    Exercising 4.31
    Watching TV 4.19
    Shopping 3.95
    Preparing food 3.93
    On the phone 3.92
    Napping 3.87
    Taking care of
    my children 3.86
    Computer/Email/
    Internet 3.81
    Housework 3.73
    Working 3.62
    Commuting 3.45
    Interaction with partners:
    w/ friends 4.36
    w/ relatives 4.17
    w/ spouse/Significant
    other 4.11
    w/ children 4.04
    w/ clients/customers 3.79
    w/ co-workers 3.76
    w/ boss 3.52
    alone 3.41
    Happiness is not entirely psychological in
    nature – it has got a biological basis too. The
    neurotransmitter dopamine is involved in desire and
    seems often related to pleasure. Pleasure can be
    induced artificially with drugs. Use of drugs is not
    some thing new, it has been used by many including
    Sanyasis since millenia.
    Our minds are as different as our finger prints
    – no two are identical.

  3. For many people, being negative isn’t a condition but a choice. Those who seek negativity in everything had decided to be that way, but you shouldn’t have to.
    If you are a teenager, this is a very hormonal and tough time for some, and therefore the negativity is an even greater issue. Hopefully they will grow out of it. Keep being positive because we need more people like you in our word 🙂

  4. There is nothing wrong with being happy, ur lucky & Blessed. Every1
    wishes they could b like that, the world would b Great!!!!!!!!!!

  5. i’m the same way as you.people now,dont like life and wouldnt like to live on this planet.really they should be grateful for just living here.but everybody thinks its cool to not being happy.But if you ask me many people take advantage of what theve’ve got :/.

  6. I don’t find happy a bad thing at all.
    What you might be though is “perky” or “chipper” which is almost like a hyper sort of happy which is just bopping around and smiling at nothing. That would be annoying.
    And looking at the good side of everything can come across as naive and unsympathetic to another person’s problems.
    If people are telling you every day to tone it down, then it is obviously not socially soothing to be so perky all the time.
    Try toning it down. Listen to another person’s problems. Use empathy. Don’t smile so much. See how it goes.

  7. I enjoy my life to the fullest, I have a lot to be happy about!
    I’ve lived a long time, and had a “great time of it”!
    And will laugh and enjoy until my body dies!

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