This the final part of 3 questions on this theme. The first was regarding the Apostle Paul pleading guilty to adultery after he had written 2/3 rd of the NT. Everyone said in essence it would have no effect on their faith.Good. The second question was what if your pastor were found guilty of the same sin? Again no problem. The consensus was men are flesh and therefore liable to sin.
This question strikes closer to home. Before you answer look to your friends who have been through this crisis and see how many have ultimately left the faith. Sadly, I know of many. I hope this never happens to your marriage, but what if it did? Would you be willing to forgive the guilty party and continue in the sacred bond of matrimony or would you find some Scriptural grounds that it is irrevocable broken and file for divorce? And would your faith in Christ be shattered as well?
(I wonder if Christ divorces us every time when we commit spiritual adultery)? You see where I’m heading? Guilty of bias
What would it do to your faith if your spouse were guilty of adultery?
- Advertisement -
- Advertisement -
Paul was not married.
killed it, completely
My faith in God remains the same. My faith in my husband, however, will never be the same.
Are we talking about losing faith in the adulterer, or in God?
As to God, my faith would not waiver. I will always trust in Him. As to if my husband cheated, I would have to say I would lose faith in him. Our vows do say “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, and FORSAKING ALL OTHERS, for as long as we both shall live.” I have seen people forgive their spouse, but they never forgot, they never trusted again, and the marriage ended. I don’t know exactly what I would do, but I also know that in most cases, once a cheat, always a cheat.
Lose faith in God? NO. Forgiveness of the adulterer depends on one simple biblical theme. Repentance. Would it suck? Absolutely. Ugh. Makes me want to puke just thinking about it. I have seen people go through this. A lady in my church had her husband leave her for another woman. She has since healed. (She had no choice in the marriage. She tried to get him back, but the Bible says if an unbeliever departs, then live in peace.) She is now a vibrant youth leader thanks in part to people surrounding her with love and kindness during her painful trial.
I feel your heart and I agree with you. Paul is not talking about a mistake made once and regretted. He is talking about a lifestyle of adultery. In this situation the wronged party must be free to ty again with a more worthy partner if they wish too.
But the decision of when and if to pull te divorce trigger is left to the wronged party. God will not judge them for choosing to opt out or stay in.
Tough issues. God bless you.
the real question is how much do you love them. if you love truly love them. you would forgive them. if you lose your faith that easy. your not a real believer anyway. your faith will be tested on other thing’s like your love ones dieing and losing them that way is worse. if you and your love one truly love each other thing’s will workout. you can not lose your faith that easy. you must look to god for help.
IT DID HAPPEN TO ME! NO, I NEVER LOST FAITH IF ANYTHING GOD WAS THE ONLY THING THAT PULLED ME THROUGH IT! I HAVE COMPLETELY FORGIVEN MY HUSBAND, BUT I ALSO PRAYED TO GOD FOR THE ANSWER, PEOPLE CAN MAKE MISTAKES AND WHEN YOU AREN’T WILLING TO FORGIVE THEN YOU ARE GUILTY OF SIN. HOW DO YOU MEASURE SIN? ONE SIN IS AS BAD AS THE OTHER! AS FAR AS IF MY PASTOR… MY FAITH IS NOT IN MY PASTOR, IT IS IN THE WORD OF GOD! PASTOR ARE HUMAN! IF MY PASTOR GIVES ME A CERTAIN VERSE IN THE BIBLE FOR EXAMPLE I DON’T JUST BELIEVE IT’S TRUE BECAUSE HE SAID IT, I LOOK IT UP AND DECIDE FOR MY SELF! ASK FOR GOD’S WILL SHOULD THIS EVER HAPPEN TO YOU!
my faith in God didn’t waver.it in fact can bring one closer to God if they seek His peace an healing (hurts need healed) for what was done.God’s guidance is needed more then ever.God’s help in forgiving is needed. If the spouse asks to remain in the marriage and repentant it is the offended spouses duty to forgive ( the Bible states forgive others or we won’t be forgiven.) and move on in life.satan is out to kill,steal ,and destroy .pastors falling in this sin are the most targeted people that satan would like to destroy. If the offended spouse can’t stay in such like marriage they are free to leave when there is sexual misconduct.(adultery)as for what would a person do if they were cheated on..absolutely nobody can answer that unless and until it actually happens to them.we say what we would do at times until the reality of it does in fact touch us personally.