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What makes a guy intimidating to a girl?

I know that if a guy finds a girl intimidating, it’s usually because she’s very striking physically.
But for the girls/women out there, if you found a guy to be intimidating, would that be a good thing or a bad thing? For example, would it be good in that a guy is too goodlooking or gives off an aura of confidence hard to shake or would it be bad in that the guy seemed to be offstandish and arrogant.


  1. A guy thats taller, and confident and generally macho-tough, i dont like guys that are cocky or full of the,selves. its just arrogant.

  2. it’s definitely a bad thing.
    usually when i find guys intimidating it’s because of their personalities – and not in a good way. to me they seem bossy and arrogant and sometimes just rude.
    or when they’re really full of themselves.

  3. I think over-impressing. Alot of times, guys will tend to show off what’s outside of them. But they didn’t know that what’s more important to girls are what they admire from the inside.
    If a guy keeps trying to impress me on how great he is, I’ll be thinking “What is he trying to tell ? That i’m suppose to be as good as him ?”

  4. I took out a girl on Valentine’s Day recently and I thought everything was going great until she said I was intimidating on the date. We had known each other for a few weeks, and initially decided to wait until the end of the school quarter in college to go out, but I figured since it was Valentine’s Day we could make an exception, and she agreed. (Man, if I could learn to be more patient…).
    I was talking about my dreams and some of the goals in my life, around the time she made the comment. I felt horrible. Maybe I seemed arrogant, or challenging to her. (She started saying how she has really high feelings of herself and almost started to attack me). Man, I had no intention of appearing that way. I was just excited to share some things in my life that I really appreciated with her, because I liked her. And I wouldn’t have asked her out if I didn’t feel like she was just as worthy as I was, or even more so.
    It all kind of went downhill from there. It seemed like no matter what I did or said I just made things worse. I haven’t heard back from her in a long time now, and I wish I never started talking about myself. I wish I just used that time to ask her about herself, and her interests and maybe made her laugh some more. I wish I just enjoyed her company and didn’t try to force anything.
    I was excited being the “guy” and maybe I was a little scared of her not liking me as much, so maybe that’s where my need to “show off” or whatever came from. It seemed to totally backfire. Maybe that’s what confidence is really about, not having to show your hand on the table and say “here I am” to someone. I wish I knew that before because I haven’t met a girl like that in a long time (maybe ever), and to think that she already liked me (she initiated interest) and that I ruined it by opening my big mouth is such a hard pill to swallow.
    My advice to other guys (and maybe girls, too) is to wait for the other person to ask you questions about yourself to answer, and if anything, ask your own questions to learn about the other person and allow them an opportunity to talk about themselves. The best is probably to just enjoy the time together and not worry about anything, so that love and laughter can happen on their own accord.
    Being told I was intimidating felt like a backhanded compliment with a sour aftertaste, and the end result of losing that which I so desired.
    A lesson in patience and humility, perhaps.


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