I had a bad dream and it put me in a really bad mood from the moment I woke up. Then other things kept happening to make me mad, little things that have made my morning harder.
Usually I am a positive person and little things don’t really get me down. But today is different, and since it’s not my norm, I don’t know how to deal.
I have a long shift at work ahead of me, and I don’t want to blow up at anyone. I have like an hour to get this thing in check.
What are your tips?
Please make note of spiritual things you do especially.
And it’s not that I don’t appreciate everyone’s advice, but if you ask me to “put it in the Lord’s hands” I will vomit.
*note- this is not my moon cycle time
Victor Emil Frankl wrote, “in the instant between stimulus and response, people have the power to choose.”
What this means is that in the split second between when something crummy happens to you, and you respond in anger, you get to CHOOSE to be, or not be, angry. You ALWAYS get this choice, no matter how much it feels like you don’t. The reason you can do this is because you are a reasoning human being, not a wild animal controlled by instincts.
Is it hard? Yes! But the trick is to make that space between stimulus and response bigger and bigger so that eventually ANYTHING can happen to you, and you are able to control how you react.
The way to practice this is to re-train your mind, through meditation, through hard exercise, through reading, through discussion, to honestly examine your current behaviors and habits, and find new and better ways to deal with things. It’s a constant struggle, and takes constant effort, but it pays off over time.