A lighter? Huh?
I’ve found that when I want to do a reading for myself, it is better to do a reading of whoever else is involved in the situation instead. There is too much of a loss of objectivity in self-reading (but of course I do it all the time). Every reader has a different way of tuning in. Years ago, I found that if got into a calm, open mind state and focused on another person, laid out the cards in a simple spread and jotted down impressions that came to me, I would get remarkably accurate information about that person. I couldn’t exactly “see into the future” but I would learn things about other people and how or why they were going to act in a certain way that I had not way of knowing otherwise.
I never got fancy about my cards. I calmed my mind, got into a meditative state, focused, and shuffled and layed out the cards. It is also a good exercise to layout the cards once in a while and look at them to get a feel for what each card means to you. The Rider Waite deck is an easy deck to use because the pictures tell stories related to the cards. You can read with an ordinary playing deck if you have enough familiarity with the meaning of the cards and your connection with who you are reading is strong enough.