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Tantric 'self love'?

I want my sex life to be more spiritual. The problem is I have no one to have sex with, so instead I want my ‘self love’ to be more spiritual. I’ve gotten pretty good at summoning the energy of my groin up to my heart chakra, but it’s not that pleasurable. Are there any more techniques? Any websites?
No no, no ‘ew’. Its very natural, lots of men do it…OK maybe ‘ew’ that I’m sharing it on the internet…I’m 15 by the way so I hope that makes the question seem more innocent 😀


  1. I urge to take great care in practicing these techniques. Awakening of the kundalini is something that should not be forced. To “summon” that energy is forcing it; this means you are “in ego” and not dealing with your Higher Self.
    Much of the development of self love through practicing Taoist and Tantric techniques is not intended to bring you pleasure. It is teaching us to move beyond the physical pleasure to experience that which lies beyond the physical and our energies there. If you want physical pleasure, stick with the standard techniques. If you want spiritual growth, then Tantra, while a difficult path, is very valid and effective. I practiced it; I found my growth to be accelerated because of it; I found very little physical pleasure with it. You actually are not supposed to release your pleasure — and that was the most frustrating thing for me. After six months of practice, phew . . . man I just had to let go!
    I encourage you to read some books, which you can find at any Borders. Search the web for Tantra. But please take care with this — Severe injury can result from forcing kundalini into an awakened state, including schizophrenia and other mental and emotional disorders. Knowing about it makes it safe. Knowing how to deal with the growth experience is the key to maintaining that safety.
    And just something for you to think about: If our thoughts and feelings are who we are, if they are indeed the substance of our soul, then your sex life is already spiritual. Just so you know. 🙂


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