When someone lacks self-respect, they live their life miserably. They shoulder the burdens of regret, shame, loathing and blame. They are prone to engaging themselves to self-destructive behavior because they have little value for themselves.
Gurdjieff has prepared a group of dancers. The dancers created such a meditative energy, such a great wave of energy, that those who had come just to see the dance, suddenly forgot the dance completely. Something else was there by the side, a door opened through it.. (commentaries by osho)