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Spiritual teachers tell us to let go of our attachments?

How do you do that?
It’s easier said than done so, how?
I’ll start:
Sit comfortably. Picture the incident. “Grrr, I’m still really angry with that teacher who made me look so stupid. . .” Feel that anger.
Now; what does that feel like IN THE BODY? What are the sensations of the anger? Let yourself really feel the tightness, the tingling, whatever it is. BUT! Don’t try to do anything with that. Just notice how it feels, without judgement. Don’t try to relax. Don’t wish the feelings away, Don’t get lost in them, (that’s really important, this is now, not then, you are feeling these sensations, not reliving the experience.)
After a while you will notice the sensations begin to shift and to leave the body. With them goes the trauma and with that goes the attachment.
That’s my contribution. What about yours?
Drifting down the river of the Dharma,
We call to each other.
‘Hello teacher.’ ‘Hello teacher’
It’s nice to hear another’s voice,
Far apart. And close together.


  1. It’s about accepting that life is suffering
    Only when you accept that you will suffer and stop fighting it, you will you begin to detatch

  2. Spiritual teachers are attached to this idea of letting go of our attachments. I tell them to let go of this belief but they say its too difficult? What to do?

  3. i like the way you think.
    i want to know what the feeling is so when i get (physically) close to someone i will know what that feeling is when they are feeling it. i have a way of picking up on things like this. if i get physically close to someone i don’t know well i physically feel like that person. sometimes i wish it would go away, but i know it’s there for a reason. i just don’t know what the reason is!

  4. How is it hard? Even Solomon one of the richest kings of all time realized to have possesions was pointless because you can not take them with you when you die. It is all about realizing that coveting things causes problems in your enjoyment in life. Wanting something someone else has can make you steal, wanting bigger and better of what you already have runs up debt, wanting your neighbors wife can cost you your life. It is easy to see why so many taught us to be free of attachment. It’s all a mind set think about the things you have and how worthless they are, statues that sit on shelves getting dusty, books that you never have time to read, video games that you play so much you never enjoy the outdoors, once you realize how coveting is hurting you from enjoying life it should be easy to let go.

  5. I will answer the first question…attachments…internet, TV, Ipod, skateboards, sports car, shopping….will these things make you lose out on life?
    You have to focus on the more important things…the knowledge of God and spreading his word.
    Your teacher was teaching. It was good of him to offer visual clues and examples for the others. You should have been glad he asked you to help.

  6. Regular Practises for adequate period of time r required to tune up mind and body to that frequency. Nothing can be achieved in this world without adequate efforts in that direction.
    Its an unfortunate state for most of the beings that they cannot see their own thoughts and emotions and try to control the thoughts and emotions of others.

  7. When you use everything for Lord Krishna’s service then you automatically become detached. Anger can be used in Krishna’s service against demons. Attachment to Krishna and detachment from matter go together. Please see below:
    Bg 6.10 P Sankhya-yoga
    All these perfections and precautions are perfectly executed when one is directly in Krsna consciousness because direct Krsna consciousness means self-abnegation, wherein there is very little chance for material possessiveness. Srila Rupa Gosvami characterizes Krsna consciousness in this way:
    anasaktasya visayan yatharham upayunjatah
    nirbandhah krsna-sambandhe yuktam vairagyam ucyate
    prapancikataya buddhya hari-sambandhi-vastunah
    mumuksubhih parityago vairagyam phalgu kathyate
    (Bhakti-rasamrta-sindhu 2.255-256)
    “When one is not attached to anything, but at the same time accepts everything in relation to Krsna, one is rightly situated above possessiveness. On the other hand, one who rejects everything without knowledge of its relationship to Krsna is not as complete in his renunciation.”
    A Krsna conscious person well knows that everything belongs to Krsna, and thus he is always free from feelings of personal possession. As such, he has no hankering for anything on his own personal account. He knows how to accept things in favor of Krsna consciousness and how to reject things unfavorable to Krsna consciousness. He is always aloof from material things because he is always transcendental, and he is always alone, having nothing to do with persons not in Krsna consciousness. Therefore a person in Krsna consciousness is the perfect yogi.
    TLK Vs 11 Devahuti Desires Transcendental Knowledge
    It is essential that we disassociate ourselves from this tree by detachment. Cutting down this tree is very difficult, but it is possible with the weapon of detachment. There is a Bengali proverb that states: “I’ll catch the fish, but I will not touch the water.” That type of intelligence is required. In America we see many old men on the beach who have retired from their business to waste their time trying to catch fish. They are not very cautious, and they touch the water. However, we have to live in this material world in such a way that we do everything for Krsna but do not touch the water of the material world. In this way, we will have no attachment to things of this material world. We may have many great temples, but we should not be attached to them. It is for Krsna’s sake that we construct temples, but we must understand that the temples are Krsna’s property. Our mission is to teach people that everything belongs to Krsna. Only a thief will occupy something belonging to another and claim it to be his.
    The Krsna consciousness movement preaches that everything belongs to Krsna and that everything should be utilized for Krsna’s benefit. He is the beneficiary of everything, and it is to our benefit that we come to this knowledge. Isavasyam idam sarvam. If one realizes that everything belongs to Krsna, one becomes the greatest mahatma. Being a mahatma does not mean that one wears a big beard and a particular type of dress. No, this awareness must be there. Whatever we have should be offered to Krsna. If we have first-class food, we should offer it to Him. If we have nothing, we can offer Him a leaf, a flower, a little water or fruit. This can he collected by anyone anywhere without having to pay money. As Sri Krsna states in Bhagavad-gita (9.26):
    patram puspam phalam toyam
    yo me bhaktya prayacchati
    tad aham bhakty-upahrtam
    asnami prayatatmanah
    “If one offers Me with love and devotion a leaf, a flower, fruit or water, I will accept it.”
    The point is that we should offer something to Krsna with devotion. It is not that Krsna is hungry and is asking for food. No, He is feeding everyone, supplying everyone with all the necessities: eko bahunam yo vidadhati kaman (Katha Upanisad 2.2.13). What, then, is He requesting? He is asking for bhakti, devotion, because He wants us to love Him. We are suffering in this material world, entangled in the tree of material existence, moving from one branch to another, and because of this we are suffering. Krsna does not want us to suffer, jumping like monkeys from branch to branch. We must come to Him and surrender to Him. When we come to this knowledge, we become perfect in knowledge. When we take shelter at the lotus feet of Krsna, we are no longer debtors to anyone. Na kinkaro nayam rni (Bhag. 11.5.41). Krsna assures us, aham tvam sarva-papebhyo moksayisyami: “I’ll give you all relief.” (Bg. 18.66) This is what we actually want. Therefore Devahuti herein takes shelter of Kapiladeva and tells Him, “You are the ax capable of making me detached.” When our attachment to the material world is severed, we become free. Bhakti is the means by which we can develop this detachment. Vairagya-vidya-nija-bhakti-yoga. Bhakti-yoga is the science of detachment. This verse was composed by Sarvabhauma Bhattacarya when he understood that Lord Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu was the Supreme Personality of Godhead. Sarvabhauma Bhattacarya was a great logician, and he composed a hundred verses to Caitanya Mahaprabhu, wherein he tells the Lord:
    siksartham ekah purusah puranah
    krpambudhir yas tam aham prapadye
    “Let me take shelter of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Sri Krsna, who has descended in the form of Lord Caitanya Mahaprabhu to teach us real knowledge, His devotional service, and detachment from whatever does not foster Krsna consciousness. He has descended because He is an ocean of transcendental mercy. Let me surrender unto His lotus feet.” (Cc. Madhya 6.254)
    When a person advances in bhakti-yoga, he will automatically become detached from material attractions. There are many American and European boys and girls in this Krsna consciousness movement who have been born in countries where they can enjoy a good deal of material affluence, but they consider this material happiness and affluence like garbage in the street. Because they are devotees of Vasudeva, they are no longer attached to these material things. This is the result of bhakti-yoga, which enables one to be detached from material enjoyment. That detachment is the sign that one is advancing in bhakti-yoga. Bhaktih paresanubhavo viraktir anyatra ca (Bhag. 11.2.42). That is the test of advancing in bhakti. If we are advanced, we are no longer attached to material enjoyment. It is not that we think ourselves great devotees and then go ahead and enjoy material things. As stated in Bhagavad-gita (5.22):
    ye hi samsparsa-ja bhoga
    duhkha-yonaya eva te
    ady-antavantah kaunteya
    na tesu ramate budhah
    “An intelligent person does not take part in the sources of misery, which are due to contact with the material senses. O son of Kunti, such pleasures have a beginning and an end, and so the wise man does not delight in them.” When one sees something superior, he immediately rejects that which is inferior. Actually we cannot bring all this about by our own endeavor; therefore we have to take shelter of Krsna, and He will help. Since our only business is to take shelter of Krsna, Devahuti says, “I am taking shelter of You so that You can cut my attachment to this material life. Why should You do this? Because I am Your eternal servant.”
    Bhaktivinoda Thakura says, anadi karama-phale, padi ‘bhavarnava-jale, taribare na dekhi upaya. If we are thrown into the ocean, there is a great struggle, even if we may be very great swimmers. There is no peace in this material world, however expert we may be in dealing with it. There is nothing but struggle. We cannot live here peacefully. It is not possible. Even if we are nonviolent and hurt no one, there will be trouble. However, if somehow or other we manage to reach the shore, we will find peace. There is peace even if we are an inch out of the water. Tava pada-pankaja-sthita-dhuli sadrsam vicintaya (Siksastaka 5). If somehow or other we become one of the particles of dust at Krsna’s lotus feet, we will be liberated.
    We may be a Hindu or a Muslim or a Christian for fifty or sixty years, or at the utmost one hundred, but again we have to take birth and be something else. We are thinking in terms of these religious designations, which are called asad-dharma, meaning that they may change at any moment. But what is our real dharma? Real dharma is sad-dharma, that which will not change, and this sad-dharma necessitates surrendering unto Krsna. This dharma will continue eternally. There are many propounders of sad-dharma, but actually the Supreme Personality of Godhead is the best propounder because He knows the reality. It is therefore said of the Gosvamis: nana-sastra-vicaranaika-nipunau sad-dharma-samsthapakau. Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu’s direct disciples, the Gosvamis, tried to establish sad-dharma, and we are trying to follow in their footsteps by establishing real dharma throughout the world with this Krsna consciousness movement.
    NoD 14 Devotional Qualifications
    One should not give up anything which can be utilized in the service of the Lord. That is a secret of devotional service. Anything that can be utilized in advancing Krsna consciousness and devotional service should be accepted. For instance, we are using many machines for the advancement of our present Krsna consciousness movement, machines like typewriters, dictating machines, tape recorders, microphones and airplanes. Sometimes people ask us, “Why are you utilizing material products if you condemn the advancement of material civilization?” But actually we do not condemn. We simply ask people to do whatever they are doing in Krsna consciousness. This is the same principle on which, in Bhagavad-gita, Krsna advised Arjuna to utilize his fighting abilities in devotional service. Similarly, we are utilizing these machines for Krsna’s service. With such sentiment for Krsna, or Krsna consciousness, we can accept everything. If the typewriter can be utilized for advancing our Krsna consciousness movement, we must accept it. Similarly, the dictating machine or any other machine must be used. Our vision is that Krsna is everything. Krsna is the cause and effect, and nothing belongs to us. Krsna’s things must be used in the service of Krsna. That is our vision.
    This does not mean, however, that we should give up the principles of discharging devotional service or neglect abiding by the rules and regulations prescribed therein. In the neophyte stage of devotion one must follow all the principles, regulated by the authority of the spiritual master. The acceptance and rejection of things should always be in pursuance of the devotional principles; not that one can independently manufacture some idea of what should be accepted or rejected. The spiritual master as the visible manifestation of Krsna is necessary, therefore, to direct the devotee on behalf of the Supreme Personality of Godhead.
    SB 4.25.24 P The Descriptions of the Characteristics of King Puranjana
    The word niguhantim (“trying to cover”) indicates that even if one is tainted by kama, lobha, krodha, etc., they can be transfigured by Krsna consciousness. In other words, one can utilize kama (lust) for serving Krsna. Being impelled by lust, an ordinary worker will work hard day and night; similarly a devotee can work hard day and night to satisfy Krsna. Just as karmis are working hard to satisfy kama-krodha, a devotee should work in the same way to satisfy Krsna. Similarly, krodha (anger) can also be used in the service of Krsna when it is applied to the nondevotee demons. Hanumanji applied his anger in this way. He was a great devotee of Lord Ramacandra, and he utilized his anger to set fire to the kingdom of Ravana, a nondevotee demon. Thus kama (lust) can be utilized to satisfy Krsna, and krodha (anger) can be utilized to punish the demons. When both are used for Krsna’s service, they lose their material significance and become spiritually important.

  8. Letting go, whether it’s called detachment or surrender or acceptance, is not something mind can do. It is an undoing and so rituals, methods and practices are merely expressions of intention.
    Letting go happens in the realization of the futility of hanging on. This realization is the goal.

  9. Yes, anger becomes illumination, the clear light knows this without knowing, one sees anger as a ripple upon the ground of pure being. Practice enlightenment , simply sitting, *this* is the Buddha Dharma. Or for the more religious “offer everything to the Gods”. ~*~

  10. http://www.uwf.edu/psych/bmikulas/Webpage/way/basicpractices.htm
    Everyone has some degree of awareness, a subjective conscious experience of noticing. Not only do the eyes and the brain process visual information, but we often have the subjective experience of seeing something. The object of awareness and awareness itself usually arise together, at the same time, so awareness and the objects of awareness are often confused. But it is possible to develop this awareness over and above what you are aware of. You can increase the range of your consciousness, developing an intentional awareness that Buddhists call “mindfulness.”
    In intermediate stages of developing mindfulness, one moves into the “witness” space. From this vantage point, one observes the contents of consciousness, including thoughts and images, without getting pulled into them. Here one’s sense of self is no longer identified with the contents of the mind. This is very liberating and opens the door to the transpersonal.
    Many people at first confuse mindfulness with thinking. Thus, a person may have a thought and then think about having the thought. But this is not mindfulness; it is just more thinking. Mindfulness is the awareness of the thought and the awareness of the thinking about the thought. But it is not the thinking itself. It takes a while for many people to distinguish thinking and mindfulness.

  11. You are right. It is much easier said than done. Letting go of material attachments is difficult but letting go of personal attachments is worse. However, the more humble you become to the point of being able to say, “I am a worm” the easier it is to break these attachments to things, people, etc. Humility and letting the Lord help you will definitely help.
    I’m as imperfect as one can get. Every night, I have a half page or full page written in my book of faults against the Holy Rule and it all comes down to humility and pride.
    As for anger… don’t say that first angry word. Pray for the person and you will find that your anger disappears!

  12. My dear Buddha
    You are teaching us
    And calling us “Teachers?”
    I agree that I am stupid
    But I am not angry with you.

  13. Hello Teacher.
    My contribution is my dual perspective.
    Like you, I am a student-teacher.
    I know that the spoken questions of one are the unspoken questions of many.
    The same with answers.
    I know that we’re a mirror AND a mystery to each other.
    And I know that we are endlessly rocking!
    (among other things)
    —–I almost forgot your question about attachments.
    Reach, hold, see, listen, taste, smell, feel, be.
    Then let it go or keep it.

  14. Excellent…”It’s easier said than done” is ego keeping us from finding what we seek. I actually don’t worry about attachments; I do not in truth own anything…having said that, I do still have certain things that I value. But that’s just part of the “growth”, as we all find our own way, and ultimately find that we always had what we long for.


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