Spiritual question – strong desire for sex?





In the last few years I have become very spiritual as most people would call it, and right now my life goal is to achieve Peace, or Enlightenment or “Transcending the Ego” or whatever you want to call it.
Lately I have noticed one of the BIGGEST obstacles is my desire for sex. I am only 19 years old and of course still have raging hormones, but still – I am on a spiritual pathway and my desire for sex makes me do rather stupid things. I have already lost a friendship because of it, maybe two, because I made the same mistake again just tonight.
Please.. have YOU ever given up the desire for sex?? How do you DO it?
Please help this seeker of truth.


  1. If you keep you busy from morning till night in a right manner then you can overcome this desire. You must be very careful at this age. You have to avoid female friends. A situation surrounded by descent males who hates bawdy talks will help you more. Reading good books, painting, games and descent tv programs and movies can divert your mind and keep you in tact. Avoid all that induces that desire. It’s nothing but a matter of spirit.

  2. One opinion: one may be on spiritual path and have 2-3 sexual experiences per week.
    The karma of more than one partner of complementary gender is more, and rather undesirable.
    So, here are a few books of great or good insight:
    “The Path of the Higher Self,” Mark Prophet,
    “Transcendent Sex,” Jenny Wade,
    “Kundalini West,” Ann Ree Colton,
    “Man, Master of His Destiny” and “Light Is a Living Spirit,” O. M. Aivanhov,
    “The Master of Lucid Dreams,” Dr. Olga Kharitidi,
    “For Men Only,” Shaunti Feldhahn,
    “The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?”, Free and Wilcock,
    “Long Pilgrimage,” John G. Bennett,
    “The Great Divorce,” C. S. Lewis,
    “Cave in the Snow,” Vicki MacKenzie, and
    “Autobiography of a Yogi,” Yogananda.
    Reviews at http://www.amazon.com

  3. To deny what you are is never a path to Enlightenment.
    By sex we exist and through sex we continue existance.

  4. Listen, Babe…
    To deny or repress sexual urges is to ask for trouble…
    Society has given you a perfectly good chance now that you’re over 18 to be an adult, and part of being an adult is knowing that sex is a good thing and is necessary for proper mental health function in adults…
    What YOUR decision is gonna be is “who” you choose to make that kind of supremely intimate contact with, and that’s why it’s vitally important that you choose a GOOD partner to have sex with, because sex leads to co-habitation and kids and sheet…
    Capiche? It’s simple…
    No worries…you’re still too young, anyway…just relax…if you build it, they will come…
    Hope this helped, and God Bless…

  5. Hi..
    I think there is nothing wrong with it though..’strong urges’..
    Needs outlet ‘but not depriving your moral codes’..
    So why not try to be smart, so as not to get in trouble..
    Then if it is so unusually ‘out of control’, maybe then it’s time to ask for a professional help. To pursue your goal properly without too much disturbances from persisting desires..
    Girls will avoid you naturally if your urges appear visibly too much.
    So try to control oneself even more when with your girlfriends I guess. Think that previous experiences as lessons for you to be reminded! If you want to have good relationships (friendships) with the opposite gender as well..
    And just release whatever you’re being supressed for to the right time, proper place privately, and then on safer ways..
    Not to demoralize oneself..So you may resume back to your usual self..Not being stressed!
    It is just but normal….
    There are great answers above too!
    Good Luck!
    I hope to share you about real spiritual path..
    It is about control.. (sacrifice)
    It is about discipline too..
    It is about enduring the desires of the flesh..
    It is the awareness of one’s weaknesses
    and how to surmount it with one’s faith and strength..
    It cleanses then..
    It pursues purity of the soul..
    It builds a deeper connection,
    with the higher realm..
    That is the spirit!

  6. Dear Seeker ~
    What you are about to read is sage advice that I hope you will find helpful now, and for always. This is a little long, but please read it through, from someone who is on the other side of your quest.
    Your problem isn’t about sex.
    Your problem is that you don’t honor your mistakes.
    Mistakes are gifts. They happen so that you can LEARN from them, and never repeat them again. If you keep making the same mistake, it’s because you’re not paying attention. Once you make the right choices, the obstacles will stop appearing before you in your path. Of course, you’ll just be served with new obstacles, but at least you’ll have learned from your last obstacle (WE HOPE !!)
    I said something similar to this in a different post under another topic earlier, but it applies in this circumstance as well, so at the risk of being redundant, I will tell you what I said in the other post.
    Your problem is that you are not in control of your body.
    If you allow your little head to do the thinking for the big head, then you’re just another kid who is “young and dumb, and full of c*m”, and who can’t keep it in his pants. No one ever died of sexual frustration, however impossible that seems when your blood is running hot and all you can think about is how fast you can get her clothes off.
    Your problem is that you don’t look at sex AS a spiritual thing. Sexual energy is the ultimate gift from the gods. Procreation could have been this un-remarkable, un-pleasant activity that was only to be endured through clenched teeth … but it’s not. Instead, we get this incredible joining, this intense cataclysmic pleasure and a time afterwards that is without equal for peace and sublime bonding.
    To me, living a life without sex is like living without sunlight, water and food. It’s a sad, dark, cold and thirsty place. However, desire has it’s place in the grande scheme of things, and fulfilling your desire for a woman should be elevated to the sharing of minds and souls as well. If all you want is her body – don’t do it. If she tells you her last name but you don’t remember it because all you’re doing is staring at her breasts – don’t do it. If this is a first or second date and she’s throwing herself at you – don’t do it. Wait until it has some depth and some meaning. Wait until you can imagine her having a future with her, or until you can imagine her in a wedding dress. When you meet THAT kind of girl, then go for it.
    I’m not saying to wait for marriage (BIG MISTAKE). I’m saying, don’t share your seed so willingly. Think of it as a precious commodity that is not to be squandered (self-pleaseur is the exception. Squander that as often as needed to retain your sanity). Think of the parts that are below the belly button and above the knees as a place where only those who are priviledged can go. Once I started thinking of my body in those terms, the sex in my life got infinitely better, and so did the life in my sex.
    If it takes 6 months to meet someone special enough, then so be it. It’s not like you can’t take care of yourself … right? It’s not like you’re never having sex again … right? You just need to ramp it down a little (or a lot), and put things into perspective. As wonderful as sex is, maybe you should see it as a baby-making opportunity every time you do it. Before you put yourself inside the next girl, tell yourself “I might make a baby right now”, and see if that doesn’t help, too. Even with the pill or condoms, things DO happen, Seeker.
    You CAN do this. I’m not saying it’s easy, but the rewards from being more careful are more than I can begin to tell you here.
    Best of luck to you.
    *big hug*

  7. I do all the time, because I’m human and nature requires us to reproduce; it’s something that we cannot avoid. However most religions deem it evil and perverse, of course theres pornography and prostitution, but you only find that in industrial societies-furthermore, sex has been twisted around by religion and exploited..

  8. there is nothing wrong with liking or wanting to have sex. it is a natural feeling. but if it has gotten out of hand you can seen a psycologist about that. there is such a thing as being addicted to sex. and they are the best people to help you get such things as an out of control sex drive under control.
    i hope you find what you are looking for.

  9. I don’t give up anything. I only learn that to be enlightened in any way is to know HOW to do things that improve life, not disrupt it.

  10. Well I’m also 19 and have a strong sex desire. I’m not sure what caused the breakup with your friendship, but you could just use masturbation as a tool to deal with it. But I would recommend when you get into the sexual state then go exercise for a while. This can help deal with those pesky hormones. Besides those two options you have to just use your mind and change your thoughts. Focus on the conversation or something else in the room.

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