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Regression? If so, why?

Lately since my life has been in turmoil, I find myself regressing back to when I was very young. I previously lived in another area that was much more pleasant and then moved to a rich neighborhood where ppl where obnoxious. I believe this may have trauamatized me. I have since continued to go back to my old neighborhood and trying 2 remember all the happy times. It’s like I’m afraid to 4get since my life is moving on even more. One things that doesnt help much is I visited my old house/ neighbors and the woman who lives in my house was cruel. She was out watering her garden and I said hello. She didnt smile or anything, I explained 2 her I once lived in her house, nothing else, and she had no expression and went back inside after I said it. It’s not like I asked 2 go inside! I’ve also been watching home movies a lot, and digging out old toys. Why am I feeling this way and what is a possible cause? I enjoy looking back on fond memories but don’t want 2 live in the past either.

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  1. I used to be able to do the same thing. Go back to where I once lived growing up and visiting the homes I once lived in.
    but it all changes with the times. the homes may look similar and the places make have some of the old bldgs and such, but the faces have changed and so have the times. People are not as nice as they once were and things are not always as they seem.
    The best thing you can do, is be grateful for the happiness you once had in those places and keep the memories for what they were at that time.
    but today is a whole different world, we grew up, we have responsiblities, and stresses and issues and problems. but we need to learn from the past, learn from the mistakes, and those things that we didnt enjoy or like, we let them go, try to move forward and create a better tomorrow by what we do today.
    thats about all you can do. deal with the past.
    There is a saying. Today is a gift, Maybe that is why they call it the present. make it a gift to remember and one that will leave your legacy to live on even after you are gone.

  2. I dont want to sound mean, but get over it. You have to realize that we all go through these times, yahoo answers is not going to help you. Get on with yourself, life is hard as hell, we all have our tribulations, and they test us, but going back to your old house isnt going to help you. We all like to watch home movies and look back on fond memories, your no different than the rest of us. Aside from our childhood, life is hard, and it challenges us in all ways, thus we all look back on how fun and happy those times were. Get over it, your know different than us, and start again.

  3. I think we have all struggled at times and look back on our past. It is nice that you have the good memories to look back on. Some people’s past is something they want to forget. It is ok to do what you are doing as long as it is not interfering with your life now. I think the issue you need to deal with is not that you feel you are regressing but that you need to deal with the issues at hand.

  4. I think you said it all in the first line of your detail; “Lately since my life has been in turmoil”. Things are apparently going on that you want to escape. That escape is taking the form of regression. May I suggest that you make a change in your routine. Not necessarily a permanent change, just for a few hours. Escape to the theatre and watch a movie. Lock yourself in a room with the computer and PLAY. I think you need a relief period from the stress you are feeling about the turmoil. If I were a betting man I would put money on the idea that you feel powerless or that the turmoil has so many facets that you don’t know where to start in your effort to improve things.
    So take a 3 or 4 hour vacation, do something that will consume you. Something where there is no room for turmoil stuff that is beating you down. Then start working on your life. Paper and pencil, write the different things that are causing you so much grief. Then with them all in front of you start prioritizing and sort out the stuff you can control and the stuff you can’t. The pick the simplest one you can control and control it. Nothing helps a situation like yours more than a success. After the success, you deserve another short vacation.
    Give it a try. It is probably a different approach and the methods you are currently employing aren’t working very well.
    Good luck. As someone once said, “Like kidney stones, this too shall pass”.

  5. Freeing yourself from your mind.
    What exactly do you mean by watching the thinker?
    “When someone goes to the doctor and says “I hear a voice in my head” she or he will most likely be sent to a psychiatrist. The fact is that, in a very similar way, virtually everyone hears a voice, or several voices, in their head all the time: the involuntary thought processes that you don’t realize you have the power to stop. Continuous monologues or dialogues.
    You probably have come across ‘mad’ people in the street incessantly talking or muttering to themselves. Well, that’s not much different from what you and all other ‘normal’ people do, except that you don’t do it out loud. The voice comments, speculates, judges, compares, complains, likes, dislikes, and so on. The voice isn’t necessarily relevant to the situation you find yourself in at the time; it may be reviving the recent or distant past or rehearsing or imagining possible future situations. Here it often imagines things going wrong and negative outcomes; this is called worry. Sometimes this soundtrack is accompanied by visual images or ‘mental movies’. Even if the voice is relevant to the situation at hand, it will interpret it in terms of the past. This is because the voice belongs to your conditioned mind, which is a result of all your past history as well as of the collective cultural mind-set you inherited. So you see and judge the present through the eyes of the past and get a totally distorted view of it. It is not uncommon for the voice to be a persons’ own worst enemy. Many people live with a tormentor in their head that continuously attacks and punishes them and drains them of vital energy. It is the cause of untold misery and unhappiness, as well as of disease.
    The good news is that you can free yourself from your mind. This is the only true liberation. You can take the first step right now. Start listening to the voice in your head as often as you can. Pay particular attention to any repetitive thought patterns. those old gramaphone records that have been playing in your head perhaps for many years. This is what I mean by “watching the thinker”, which is another way of saying; listen to the voice in your head, be there as the witnessing presence.
    When you listen to that voice, listen to it impartially. That is to say, do not judge. Do not judge or condemn what you hear, for doing so would mean that the same voice has come in again through the back door. You’ll soon realize: there is the voice, and here am I listening to it, and watching it. This ‘I am’ realization, this sense of your own presence, is not a thought. It arises from beyond the mind.”

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