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negative, toxic energy?

This week I got to see first hand how negative thoughts, words and actions can become toxic enough to make a person sick. What I speak of is hate, anger, judgement, cynicism, pessimism… a person being so consumed with this negativity that they became physically ill.

It’s easy to get sucked in to the negativity and become negative ourselves. (Especially in R&S). Do you ever find yourself physically affected by your own or anothers negative energy? Do you do anything to gaurd yourself from it? How do you go about clearing your own energy?

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  • Working as a psychotherapist, part of my task is to be aware of my own reactions as I’m working with a client. This is often the best way of truly understanding that person’s inner world, which is, after all, what I’m there for. AND it can have a huge impact, from headaches to incredible pain at the solar plexus to nausea, as well as emotional reactions. What my training has taught me is to know myself very well – I can only react when I have a ‘weakness’, and so my ‘weaknesses’ are part of the toolkit of being a therapist. But that also means I have worked on them in my own personal therapy all through my training, and can ‘disidentify’ because I know them so well.

    When something really gets to me – and it does happen, no training can completely change the way I am!! – I usually do one of two things. I go for a walk – not a gentle amble, but a real stomping, fast-as-I-can walk, to get my heart rate and breathing up. And I phone a friend – not just any friend, but another therapist who will understand the process.

    However, it’s easier to manage this when I’m with clients (I’m prepared for all their ‘stuff’, that’s why they come!) than with other people. If I’m caught unawares, the walking is essential, phoning someone (could be any of my friends) or just a total distraction (even coming on here 🙂 ). If I know I’m going to seeing someone who has that impact, I imagine a shield of white light around me – take about 10 minutes to really relax, centre myself and go into the imagination of it. It works surprisingly well.

  • I used to let the negativity, hate, anger, and so on in R&S affect how I answered a question. In other words I would “fight fire with fire.” I found myself stooping to the same foolish levels of these individuals who done that. It would affect my emotions and even my thoughts. Anymore I tend to stay away from those foolish questions or answers, or even better, answer them truly in a spirit of love. I am a Christian so pardon the quotes but he bible says in Proverbs to “answer not a man according to his folly.” To answer truthfully and kindly in a spirit of love is like “heaping coals of fire on their heads” to quote the book of Proverbs yet again. Negativity is contagious, like a sickness. When someone is being negative, I walk away or get off the phone. The bible addresses this yet again in Proverbs where it says, “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.” I have visited people who were literally sick and once we get to laughing together, it’s amazing how much better they say they feel. Instead of surrendering to the power of that negative energy, I ask the Lord to cleanse me and renew the spirit of my mind, and then surround myself with friends and conversations that lift me UP emotionally instead of bringing me down. Great question and comments! Peace.

  • Yes, emotional distress can make you sick. It changes your neurophysiology and can cause cancer and heart disease. I got a headache trying to reason with some Arabs from Iran who thought they were Palestinians. Note to self: stop beating head against wall. I’ve been trying to build up the healthy conscious part of my soul rather than struggling with negative in me. Morning and bedtime prayer, and meditation during the day. I would concentrate on breathing, and sort of just accept the negativity, then as the peaceful awareness part tht is connected to G-d gets stronger, it crowds out the negative. Someone gave me a book by Eckhart Tolle that is very practical as far as specific exercises to do this. I’ve been working on it the past few weeks and seems to help. It agrees with Chassidus concepts what I know anyway. All the best!

  • Did it ever occur to you that sometimes people create evil online persona’s that have no resemblance to real life? Sometimes they do it for twisted reasons, and sometimes they do it just to make fun of pretentious windbags. The first rule of online communities is, nothing is as it seems. The 13 year old you’re chatting with might be an FBI agent.

  • I hiked up Hamilton Mountain in the Columbia River Gorge
    today with two best friends, ate lunch at the top while it
    was snowing heavily. Chemical toxins and negative
    psychological energy got sweated out.

  • LOL @ Blue Chaos.

    Yes, I do something about it.
    A long time ago, I imagined that I had a jacket on and anytime I want I can wrap the jacket around me to “hide” my buttons. When I hide my buttons, no one can push them. I did this physically from time to time until I no longer needed to do it physically, but can now do it in my imagination. I could laugh or cry at their negativity sometimes, but it RARELY affects my own level of positivity.

  • As cliche as it sounds – humour is the best armour and defense against negativity – if you can laugh about if afterwards the biggest part of the battle.

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