When someone lacks self-respect, they live their life miserably. They shoulder the burdens of regret, shame, loathing and blame. They are prone to engaging themselves to self-destructive behavior because they have little value for themselves.
A practitioner of Zen will tell you that everything you do should be done with a purpose, with awareness, and with intent. A Zen tea drinking meditation involves using intent and awareness in the preparation, making, and drinking of tea.