am a white guy, 25 years old and I have been dating an African woman who is 27 years old for a few months. I know she is a refugee from Sudan, she has been here two years and I know things were very bad over there because of the wars. She doesn’t like talking about the past, she saw some very bad things. She is very sweet and very affectionate and seems to like me a lot. One thing she does though kind of weirds me out a little.
Twice since we have been together, I got sick. It was no big deal. I had a bad cold and then about a week ago I got some stomach flu and I was throwing up. My GF acts WEIRD when I am sick. She looks worried to death, paces around the house, covers all the mirrors with cloth (why? I dunno) burns twigs and leaves in a bowl, lights candles and basically waits on me hand and foot. She will spoon-feed me like a baby, wash me and do everything for me and not let me move until I feel better. It’s nice that she is so attentive but seriously, what is up with this?
Is this a culture thing? Is she doing some “magic” ritual? Is this what women are “supposed” to do when a man is sick in her country? Or could it just be the fact that she saw people starve and die of things like malaria when she was in Africa and she is worried about me? Can someone explain what all this means? I don’t mind being treated like a king when I am sick I just want to know WHY? Does anyone know about the culture of Sudan and why she might act this way? I already tried to ask her why but her English is not very good and all she can say is “You must get well.” and she doesn’t seem to think this is weird at all and she won’t explain why she does this. Can someone EXPLAIN this to me?
I HAVE asked her and she won’t answer other than saying “I don’t know how to say in English.” or “Please don’t worry, just rest. I make you better.” or something like this….