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Is it gay to be interested in meditation?

I have been having problems with anxiety and depression due to not living consciously a lot of the time and not being able to control my thoughts and listen to my intellect rather than desires. I thought about doing a meditation session once a week in my town but I am concerned that it is only for women and gay people. Is there an alternative? I have tried to meditate in my own time but Im not sure im doing it right…

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  • Not at all. Meditation is nothing but practice to focus ones mind.

    As I am a long-time Buddhist practitioner I was compelled to aid a request to describe and explain what meditation is all about, I wrote a ‘manual’ for single-pointed meditation, as follows (it’s rather detailed). This is what meditation consists of:

    “The most effective meditations I find require pre-planning. I suggest you find a beautiful natural spot where you won’t be disturbed- for example a mountain, a cave, by a river, a cliff, a beach or of course, beneath a tree. The time doesn’t matter really, though I have heard that the Dalai Lama prefers to meditate at Dawn.

    Wear loose, comfortable clothes, drink only water for the days before and during and the less you eat, the better (so long as you don’t totally starve yourself)- especially avoid meat. Just before you prepare to start, have a cool shower or something first, go to the toilet, blow your nose, and turn off that phone!

    Make sure you are mentally ready, not tired or feeling excessive emotion/excitement, as these can be big obstacles to your session.

    Begin by burning a stick of incense and saying a prayer to the Buddhas and innumerable Bodhisattvas, requesting for the meditation to be fruitful, and for all positive karma to be dedicated to the attainment of enlightenment for the benefit of all beings.

    Find a position which is comfortable for you- I find that half-lotus is best for beginners and full lotus for the advanced, place your upright hands softly on your lap, right hand above the left, and join your thumbs, which forms a beautiful lotus shape (your spirit is preparing to rise from the muddy depths and flower into its full potential).

    Move about for a while until you find your most comfortable, settled position, then straighten your back as upright as you can (without stress/force)- this will keep your mind alert and awake: it’s important that you maintain a good posture, and you should check it every now and then. Raise your head as though you were balancing a book on top of it, and pull your chin slightly in and down towards your neck. Put your tongue to the roof of your mouth.

    Now prepare your breath- breathe in deep through your nose so it goes right down to your stomach, and then breathe out through your mouth, this will slow your breath (at a pace that suits you). Allow your eyelids to lower almost all the way and start counting your breathes like so:

    “Breathing in…1…Breathing out…2…Breathing in…3…Breathing out…4…” and so on until you reach 10, and then start over. It is natural to become distracted, so when distracting thoughts come, become aware of them, let them go and start over again from 1. I suggest you do this for around 20-30 minutes before you begin the actual meditation (this may seem like meditation, but it isn’t).

    Then stop counting your breathes, just focus on the natural sensation, like so:

    “Breathing in…I know I am breathing in….Breathing out…I know I am breathing out….”

    “Breathing in deeper… I know I am breathing in…Breathing out slower…I know I am breathing out….”

    I must emphasize that you shouldn’t be controlling or forcing your breaths, they should be naturally occurring.
    If you continue this for another 30-60 minutes you will feel very calm and focused.

    When the time is right, stop thinking…
    Focus on the sole sensation of the air moving inside and outside of you. Your breath may even seem to stop altogether when you get deep into this point.

    If you continue this practice, hopefully you will attain your first Dhyana in time. It is not easy, and if you do not right away- please don’t feel disheartened, keep practicing. I promise you it will be worth it, the first Dhyana is not unlike a beautiful calm wave of euphoria which lasts for hours, if not days, and it brings other benefits which will certainly transcend the meditation session- such as the wisdom of discernment.

    When you finish, be very gentle with yourself and move very slowly, have a light stretch and don’t try standing up right away. It’s likely that you will have lost most of the sensations in your body.

    I strongly recommend that you read up on the 4 Dhyanas so you will know what to expect when they are attained:

    * The first dhyana level which is accomplished in this way has five features: conception, discernment, joy, physical well-being and samadhi.

    * The second dhyana, which is even more peaceful, has four features: the perfect clarity in which conception and discernment have been relinquished, joy, physical well-being and samadhi.

    * The third dhyana, which is more peaceful still, has five features: equanimity in which the concept of joy has been abandoned, mindfulness, watchful awareness, physical well-being and samadhi.

    * The fourth dhyana, which is called the ultimate dhyana because it is yet more peaceful, has four features: the neutral sensation in which the sensation of physical well-being has been abandoned, mindfulness, the mental formation of equanimity, and samadhi.

    This is everything you need to know- I pray it serves you and others well.”

    Namaste.

  • No I can assure you meditation is for the religious the non religious gays Straight easterner westerner male female young and the opposite of that [me] Everybody The benefits are enormous but I would recommend more than once a week In fact every day Even as short as ten minutes is beneficial
    Once you see this for yourself It wont be long before it becomes a regular part of the life So Yes go for it
    BTW have you considered teaching yourself Much is available on the net for free
    Good luck

  • The only true spiritual meditation consists of thinking about God and his word in the Bible (Joshua 1:8, Psalms 1:2; 63:6). Otherwise you are talking about meditation for the soul.

  • You should learn to be open minded, and less worried about what is society accepted, and go with what makes you feel good.

  • your use of the word ‘gay’ here is actually quite refreshing in this inane, politically-correct world, so thank you for that…….and no, it’s not gay to be interested in meditation

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