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I want to be confident and happy with who I am, but I'm ugly?

I’m a smart guy, ambitious, studying medicine. I want to become a multimillionaire, have a beautiful wife, travel the world…..etc but I’m having troubles(BIG) lately with my self-esteem becasue I think I’m ugly.
I want to know, in order for me to have a healthy self-esteem Do I have to deceive my subconscious mind that I’m good looking(lie to myself) or just accept the fact that I’m not good looking(accept the worst) and work on other things like personalty, money , success…etc?

19 COMMENTS

  1. Beauty comes from within. Start working on beign a good, kind person (sounds like you already are). When others perceive you as a wonderful, caring person, you will begin to feel beautiful.

  2. Why do you think you’re not good looking?I think you’re being too hard on yourself. We all want to be successful in life and thats great that you are trying to achieve that. However, finding the right woman who will love you for who you are is more important.

  3. Don’t worry about what you look like. I’m sure you’re not ugly. Who created the standards for attractive and ugly anyway?
    Everyone will get old and wrinkly one day.. When you’re old and wrinkly, at least you’ll have money. 🙂

  4. ur not ugly ur just a beautifull monkey lol nah man face facts work with wot u got cause it aint going anywere and aslong as people see that ur happy this will make them happy thus the world keeps on spinnin
    i doubt this help but oh well

  5. you might not have a realistic idea of your looks, which are superficial anyway. it’s what’s going on in your head (and heart) that really count.

  6. first of all to truely be successful you have to stop putting yourself down. its not right. try punching yourself in the face–hard–thats how it feels to be putting yourself down whether you feel it now or later.
    and if you really think youre bad looking, just go the mall, get some new clothes, new haircut, and just change your appearance so that youre comfortable with what you look like and who you are.
    for example: wear glasses? get contacts. major self esteem boost.
    and if you say you want to have a beautiful wife and meet a lot of new people you will have to deal with (as in traveling the world and being a multimillionaire), ask yourself this first; how do you expect yourself to be happy with your partner and your other companions when you cant even be happy fully with yourself?

  7. As the saying goes, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” so I’m sure there are many people who love the way you look. Just think of some of the moviestars that are not appealing to most. They find spouses easy! Money talks!

  8. Like others have already said.. when you are rich and successful, looks will not matter. Looks only matter for those who are not successful because thats all they have to bank on.. so don’t worry you’ll find a woman who will love you sincerely..
    But, if you think you are ugly (but didn’t mention what is wrong), did you think about hitting the gym? Some girls don’t care about an ugly face if the guy has a killer body.

  9. Don’t lie to yourself, it only makes it worse. Just go to school and when your time comes you will have your beautiful wife that you want. Many guys think this way when things dint go there way they want them to

  10. There are several things you might want to consider… First, please stop focusing on the physical side of things. I can promise you that there are women out there that will blow you away, but they are not considered “beautiful” by most standards… Meaning, people who simply focus on physical beauty will always be unhappy in the long term… It is the person inside that truly matters in the long term because they are the one you have to live with..
    Second… Realize that you will never be happy caring about what other people think. You should consider instead asking yourself what you like and what you want to do in life instead, and not worry about other people… So you know, it is called being “independent minded” (aka Being a leader), and it is only way to truly be happy in life. It is also no coincidence that this personality is the most desirable for mates as well… Meaning women love nothing more than a man who does what he wants, and does not care what anyone thinks..
    Good Luck and I Hope this Helps..

  11. Ramy, i use to feel like that, and with dreams too.
    yet the point is till we have love for ourself, life is deceptive and we do lie to ourself.
    true success? look this up it’s worth it’=Joshua 1:8&9 chapter 1 verses 8&9 on success, prosperity and victory in our lives.
    repent of sins and be reborn spiritually ‘born again’ to see the kingdom of heaven=to be born again
    John 3:3
    “Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God”
    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world (everyone), that he gave his only begotten son, that whosover believeth in him shall not perish (be cast to hell weeping forever Matthew 24:51) but have everlasting life.”
    John 14:6
    “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.”
    John 10:9
    “I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.”
    further proven in the Epistle of Paul
    Ephesians 2:8-9
    “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
    Not of works, lest any man should boast.”
    Titus 3:5
    “Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us.”
    I am born Jewish and had to see that the Messiah, Jesus fulfilled prophecy
    Isaiah 52:13-53:12 He will be exaulted but first he was marred more than any man, and would lay down his life as a lamb to make atonement/forgiveness for our sins.
    Isaiah 9:6 “Unto us a child is born, a son is given, and he is mighty God, wonderful in counsel, the everlasting father, and the prince of peace.”
    John in Revelation 1:1 & 3:19&20 as Jesus speaks from heaven, saying he loves us unconditionally and asks us to repent of sin quickly, and telling us he is knocking on our heart’s door, to come in and be our friend, when we ask him in.
    So I prayed, Jesus help me, I am sorry for even one lie and all my other sins, come into my heart and be my friend, amen.
    David in Jesus amazing grace and thanks great question

  12. Just try to stop worrying about your looks. I know in today’s world–and with what you want to achieve–looks seems to count. I am thinking that you are a little obsessed with the your looks. To me–beauty comes from within. Besides–beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What you might consider ugly–others might see beauty. Relax and just be happy. You have a good brain and very nice goals in life–and confidence toward those–so let life happen. Good Luck to you.

  13. You are what you are, be happy with that and every thing else should slot in to place. Confidants is the key, focus on your good points personality, achievements, goals even things like do you have nice hands, hair, eyes??? etc
    If your goal is to have lots of money and be successful then you want a down to earth partner that will love you for who you are any way, not what you are and what you have!!!!!!
    Relax, I hope things work out for you.

  14. never underestimate what you can do. you are a beautiful person for sharing this question. you will make a difference and attract people – all just because you are you. all the best.

  15. Thinking your ugly is a matter of opinion , which this world is full of. You your self think it ,honestly speaking you imagine it from everyone . See, in the eyes of ones self we can say that about ourselves but who cares what other people think . If you ain’t confidant of yourself no matter what you look like , how are you going to succeed in life its self? We are judged daily in life by looks , form of acts , etc you name it . Nobody is perfect and to those who think they are , I applause them (That’s there self confidence).Being beautiful , ugly isn’t the end of the world , there are far more things that are going on worse that thinking negative of your self . I can honestly say that if you appear ugly to one person , you can be beautiful to another. That person hasn’t found you yet. Its just the way it is . Its like some people (men and women ) . We , all have different taste some like skinny people some like heavier , others like average etc . No matter what the reason we are all different for a reason and beautiful in our own way . Just be content thats what makes us unique .Personality and money success is just a necessity that fulfills ones self ,doesn’t mean it will make you happy .
    Have a good day .

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