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I just need some inspiration…?

If you guys have red my other questions on here, then you would know in detail about my soon-to-be daughter’s heart defect. In short, she has one ventricle and her two major arteries to her heart are reversed.
On the good side– I had an amniocentesis done, and the results all came back clear, and normal!!
On the weird side– I also only have two major veins in the umbilical cord, versus three.
Anyways, I’m just looking for some inspiration. As you can (maybe) imagine… some days are not the best.
Some days I find myself wondering why me? Why my kid? What did I do to deserve this karma? And other days are great and I know that I would have miscarried if I was not meant to carry this child and have her in my life…
Can anyone just give me some things to think about to stop me from having my bad days, or maybe to turn them around?
Thanks so much.
Thank-you to the four of you that answered to this. I am sitting here crying, and for once, it’s not a bad thing. You’re all right by telling me that God will not give me more than I can handle. I haven’t been doomed, and I will come out stronger because of this. And, I am hoping my bond with my boyfriend will be stronger through all of this too. Most days, i know these things, and most days are good days, where I am conscious of the heart defect and the tough times to come, but I know that things will be okay. But, the things you guys have said to me will carry me through my tougher days better than I was doing before. Thank you.


  1. I Will Move the Rock
    by Cindy Lu
    A man was sleeping at night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light and the Savior appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.
    This the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun up to sun down, his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock, pushing with all his might. Each night the man returned to his cabin sore and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain.
    Seeing that the man was showing signs of discouragement, Satan decided to enter the picture by placing thoughts into the man’s mind such as: “You have been pushing against that rock for a long time, and it hasn’t budged. Why kill yourself over this? You are never going to move it.”
    Thus giving the man the impression that the task was impossible and that he was a failure, these thoughts discouraged and disheartened the man even more. “Why kill myself over this?” he thought. “I’ll just put in my time, giving just the minimum effort, and that will be good enough.”
    And that he planned to do until one day he decided to make it a matter of prayer and take his troubled thoughts to the Lord. “Lord,” he said, “I have labored long and hard in your service, putting all my strength to do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that rock by half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?”
    To this the Lord responded compassionately, “My friend, when I asked you to serve me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with all your strength, which you have done. Never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. Your task was to push. And now you come to me, with your strength spent, thinking that you have failed. But, is that really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled, your back sinewed and brown, your hands are callused from constant pressure, and your legs have become massive and hard. Through opposition you have grown much and your abilities now surpass that which you used to have. Yet you haven’t moved the rock. But your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your faith and trust in My wisdom. This you have done.
    “I, my friend, will now move the rock.”
    By all means, exercise the faith that moves mountains, but it is still God who moves the mountains.

  2. She is your baby,and she will always be your baby. It’s hard now not knowing her. Once you see her little face everything will change. She may have a few things that need work when she finally comes into this world, but so what. All that will just make you stronger and appreciate her that much more. She loves you so much… even tho you can’t see her. she knows you are her mommy and she counts on you for everything. It’ll be hard for a while, but everything will work out. Like you said it’s meant to be. Everything happens for a reason. When you get to hold her all your fears and worries will melt away. Good luck. You both will be in my prayers.

  3. “Why you”?
    Because you have been deemed strong enough to deal with a very difficult situation. This has nothing to do with Karma, or being punished. This means that you are a special person who is chosen to deal with a special situation, and raise a very special child. We are never given more than we can handle; I strongly believe that. You have been chosen to learn and grow from a tough situation. Can you imagine how much stronger you will become from all of this?
    I pray that you have plenty of support and guidance from family, friends, doctors, etc. There will be days that are good, and some that are bad, just please remember that you are chosen, not punished. You are very special, not doomed.
    Count your blessings, such as the results of your amniocentisis. I wish you all the best, and many blessings to come.

  4. Here is some inspiration….
    I was born with a heart defect and I think it was harder on my mom than it was on me. She still worries about me everyday and I think that is what moms do. I am now an adult with children of my own that do not have the heart defect and other than my routine appointments with a cardiologist, special precautions during preganancy, and antibiotics when I go to the dentist, I am a fully functioning adult and I never even think about it.
    I did have surgery when I was younger, but remember your child won’t know what life is like without the defect, so to her life will just be normal. It is how you handle it that will make your child feel like she is different or odd, but in reality she will be able to have friends, socalize and life a normal life. Sports may be hard (as they were for me), but I chose to pursue other interests like music, so it wasn’t a big deal.
    Keep your head up and know that life is wonderful. Your baby is very lucky to have you as a mother. I am sure there will be surgeries and hard times, but you can get through it! Have faith in your daughter. She will be strong!
    My motto when the times get tough: God will not give me more than I can handle.
    If you say that over and over then you know whatever comes your way or your daugheter’s way you WILL be able to handle.
    God bless.


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