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How can I tell my parents that I want to become a pagan?

I want to become a pagan… BUT!!! I need to tell my parent and my mom is a catholic and my dad believes in evolution because he is a science teacher. My mom is not a strong catholic and I don’t know how to tell then.

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  1. If you are not grown up enough to talk to your parents, then perhaps you should continue to learn from your parents rather than pretending you know better than they do.
    Hope that helps.

  2. It helps to know why you want to become a pagan and what about that particular belief system appeals to you. And just because your dad believes in evolution doesn’t mean he’s an atheist.
    So, here’s what you say. You tell them that Catholicism is not giving you the spiritual fulfillment you want and that you have been looking at other religions. You have discovered that this religion is right for you and explain the reasons. And you have to have a reason besides “It sounds cool.”

  3. Tell them you want to ruin your life. Seriously, don’t go there. You’ll be a poor, rotten-toothed self-absorbed miserable person in about 20 years.

  4. Hannah (I like the name) anyways, you want to become a non believer – not a “Pagan”. A Pagan is / was a person who usually, sacrificed to gods oftentimes, human sacrifices. In this sense or meaning of the word “pagan”, you can see that even, those who had Christians murdered (martyred) like the Romans for their beliefs were actually “pagans”. I’m a Christian and I must commend you for making the effort to see things through your own eyes. “Pre-packaged” Christians can be a good thing or a bad thing since he or she needs to come to or arrive at the reason why they need God in their lives. Nothing can be so futile or useless as doing things because only, “someone said so” or just conforming to the crowd. Be an individual (God loves uniqueness) !

  5. Why do you need to tell your parents? I don’t ask because I think you shouldn’t tell them, but because it is a good question to ask yourself. Is it because you don’t want to go to mass anymore with your mom or something like that? They’re obviously open to other beliefs to some degree since they have different beliefs themselves and are married.
    There is a book called, “When Someone You Love Is Wiccan,” which might be a good book for them to read, if you’d like to share something like that. If I were you, I’d read it first to really make sure it represents you and what you believe. “Pagans” can believe a lot of different things, and if you’re not Wiccan, that book won’t really help you.
    If I were wanting to share my beliefs with my parents, I would sit down in a number of sessions and write down what I believe, why I want to call myself a pagan, and what that means to me. I would think of the questions my parents might ask me when I talked about it, and try to answer those questions for myself first. Questions like, “so what do you believe?” and “do you still believe in God?” “what about Jesus?” “what about evolution?” or anything else that might come up are good things to think about beforehand.
    Oh, and believing in evolution really doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a faith of some sort. There are many Christians who believe in evolution without compromising their faith in God, the Bible, etc. A person can believe that God created everything in 6 days, but also allowed for evolution.
    I became a pagan when I was 16 and didn’t tell my parents until I was 18. It worked out fairly well because I had a better idea of what I believed by the time I really talked about it with them. If you sit down and figure out what you would say to questions about your beliefs, you could probably tell them earlier and not feel too awkward about it. Confidence goes a long way.
    Edited to add:
    I’ve been a pagan for 12 years and I’m not self-absorbed or miserable. I am quite happy with my life.
    Also, for those who don’t even know what Pagans are about, Christians also used to make animal sacrifices and even human ones. Remember the big Bible story about a man who took his son to be a sacrifice to God, only to have an angel stop him at the last minute and make available a ram instead… ring any bells? Or how about the big human sacrifice that resulted in everyone’s salvation, eh? Point is, Christians made human sacrifices too, so saying some other pre-Christian group of people were “bad” because they made human sacrifices is really saying that Christians were bad too.
    Modern neopagans don’t make animals sacrifices, though they may leave offerings for the gods/spirits/etc. The word “pagan” refers to the people in lands conquered by Christians who still believed in the old gods and spirits of that land. It doesn’t mean any particular belief systems or practices. It just meant someone who continued to follow their old ways and belief systems after being conquered by Christians. Modern “pagans” tend to be people who draw their beliefs from pre-Christiann European folk tradition and practices, as well as their own interactions with the gods/God/spirits, and the wealth of practices and information brought together by their neopagan predecessors. They tend to honor the natural cycles of the land and nature, including their own bodies. They’re certainly not going out and making animal or human sacrifices.

  6. Take the statue of Joesph and Mary and place them in your room and place candles around them lit and pray the rosary over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and then some more.
    But you must first look up the word Pagan and see the resemblance, DO YOU GET IT

  7. Pagan is a very broad term – when you talk to your parents, it would be a good idea to be able to explain your beliefs to them and be able to answer their questions in a calm, rational manner.
    Or perhaps it is more that you haven’t exactly defined your beliefs and into which spiritual path they best fit yet, in which case it might be appropriate to say that you are interested in exploring and learning about other religious paths.
    Here is an article and some links that should help:
    http://paganwiccan.about.com/od/faq/f/parents.htm
    Uh, guraqt2me – might I bring to your attention that none of my pagan religious symbols depict a guy nailed to a cross?
    Christians have made their own share of human sacrifice in the name of their god throughout history, in fact, every religion has. In this day and age, most of the world’s people have learned that we don’t need to kill to appease our gods – so how’s about stepping into the 21st century with the rest of us eh?

  8. Find a good book on neo-Paganism and give it to them and ask them to read it because you are interested but you wanted their input to discuss it first.
    Refuse to discuss it until they read it.
    They still might not be happy about it, but at least they will see that what you are interested in is not some freaky-flakey thing, just different beliefs.

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