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How can I propose trying "tantra" to my fiancee?

I am very into yoga and its belief system, and I find it helps me connect with my spirituality and be closer to God. By fiancee also believe in God (we do share the same beliefs) and respects my love and understanding for yoga and its mentality, but he is a macho manly guy and not so much into yoga at all! I want to propose trying tantra to him, as I have heard it is much like yoga, but I am afraid he wont be into it because its too emotional or something. How can I ask him without putting him on the spot without making him feel weird or uncomfortable? He is not much into meditation at all, but was raised in a very spiritual household (his mom is out there) and has been exposed to all sorts of wacky meditation practices.
I dont want to turn him off, or make him feel inadequate in any way. I also dont want him to be weirded out by the whole meditation aspect of it as like I said he is a macho dude. Any advice on how I could propose it??


  1. i can’t imagine a guy being THAT opposed to it. my suggestion is propose it right after having good, regular sex while he’s still thinking of things he’d like to do to you (i can just about guarantee there’re things he’d like to try that he’s affraid to propose as well)

  2. Make it all about the sex. Tantra has great teachings on multiple orgasms for men. If that doesn’t change his mind nothing will. You would say that for starters of course, hopefully the heart follows after that.
    I know that sounds less than spiritual, but my wife tried to get me into it by showing me a video and there was this guy doing a scarf dance. I like to think I am pretty progressive, but that was really the worst thing for her to show me.

  3. Go and see a tantra therapist (goddess) with him for some instruction. You probably are aware that there are people who specalise in training people in tantra. Group workshops are also a good way to start.


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