May 5, 2011 at 7:00 am #38195
My father-in-law has been very sick for the past few years (he’s had a pacemaker for the past 4 years and has suffered with his kidneys for the past 6 years, he’s also been suffering with diabetes for the past 6 years). His health became much worse this past March when his blood pressure continued to drop and his heart rate increased drastically. That was the first time they had to revive him at least 3 times in that one visit. He wound up being admitted for a month. He has lost the use of his legs since then. Unfortunately, he had an accident when he fell back on his tailbone and suffers with the pain b/c he can’t walk and lays on his back or sits all day. Ever since his March hospitalization, he’s been in and out of the hospital at least 1-2 times a month and has been going to dialysis minimum 3 days a week, sometimes daily. In his most recent visit he was hospitalized for 6 weeks as they found infection in his pancreas and colon and he had to have surgery. He now wears a coloscopy bag. He has lost so much energy and appears to be hallucinating a lot lately. He says he hears voices and sees faces of loved ones who have passed. The other night my sister-in-law found him hanging from the bars of his hospital bed yelling her name; he says he doesn’t remember how he got there. He keeps saying he sees his ex-wife (my husband’s mother) who passed away more than 10 years ago. He also keeps swatting the air as if there are flies around him. (Last year he claimed he heard running through the house and saw a little kid as well as he saw red eyes staring at him; my niece also claimed she saw butterflies that she kept swatting away around the same time that no one else could see) My husband’s family seems to be convinced there are spirits in the house. But, I was wondering if these images and sounds could be affiliated with all the medication he’s on and his lack of sleep in the hospital, not to mention his diet (he’s restricted to baby food until he heals and is able to eat solids again). He’s been sleeping all day since he got released from the hospital this weekend. He’s constantly moaning and struggling to open his eyes, but when you talk to him or try to touch him, he jerks and just moans…doesn’t say anything. Has anyone experienced this with a loved one? Special note: My husband’s family is from the islands and believes in spirits, as they think deceased loved ones are trying to communicate with my father-in-law. I am not saying I necessarily believe this is true or not; I’m just curious if anyone has witnessed what I have described with a loved one before and what your thoughts are. Any insight into what my father-in-law is experiencing would be appreciated? This is a very critical time in my family. I am thankful for your time and thoughts.
Answer by rollickingredsfan
Maybe he’s not hallucinating. Maybe he really does see the faces and hear the voices of those who have gone before him. After all, they say that the dying are much more in tune with what’s going on on ‘ the other side ‘ than their younger and healthier counterparts can ever hope to be.
The dead – or, so called dead – are all around us, living in alternate dimensions of time that butt so closely up to ours that glimpses, not only by us of them, but also by them of us, can occasionally be had. In short, I don’t believe that there’s any such thing as death, as each of us continues to carry on, be it here or somewhere else. Yes, this is just a theory. But when you consider the close proximity of the ten or eleven various dimensions of time, it’s one that makes sense. Therefore, you can choose to either believe it or not to believe it. It’s up to you, I guess.
May 5, 2011 at 7:50 am #263022
You are good for trying to help your poor suffering father-in-law. Yes, I believe those who approach the end of their life may very well see what the rest of us do not see. My mother had this experience in her last illness. She saw her brothers and sisters, and her parents, all of whom had passed long before her. To her, they were gathered around her — and that seemed to give her peace. May your dear father-in-law find peace with his loved ones who have crossed before him.
May 5, 2011 at 8:26 am #263021
My dad talked about deceased relatives and friends of his and a lot about horses!! He would lay in bed and reach for bridle reins and I would ask him what he was doing and he said, “I’m trying to reach the reins”!! He was in and out!! I think people that have never been sick and in the hospital have strange reactions!! But, being Native we have different beliefs sometimes and we called it a “death talk” because he was going home!! All the people he talked about were already gone!! He lasted about 2 days and he went with them and that’s what he wanted! He had an aneurysm!!!
May 5, 2011 at 9:15 am #263016
My grandfather saw my dead grandmother before he died in the hospital. He said she was waiting at the door for him. It does happen.
May 5, 2011 at 9:56 am #263011
When my sister and I were in Cleveland saying good by to Dad.He did not say much about people from his past unless we brought up the subject.We did learn why he chose to be a musician in high school rather than an outdoorsman like his older brother.
All I can say is listen and learn. God has to have a special place in heaven for a caregiver such as yourself.
May 5, 2011 at 10:37 am #263007
I see nothing unusual because it’s happened at least twice that the dying person I was sitting with in the hospital has seen others around the room. They asked me who was standing behind me. It was a bit unnerving at first, but nurses told me it happens much of the time at the end of one’s life.
Sometimes the patient is frightened of, and sometimes they smile and talk to the “visitors.” I prefer to believe they are always there throughout our lives, but can only be seen when we’re preparing to leave our bodies and move on to the next “stage.”
May 5, 2011 at 11:12 am #263002
Do you know if he’s seeing bright white lights? I believe he may be ready to cross over to the other side. Many people experience bright white lights, see themselves as children, their deceased loved ones etc. Not knowing what faith you are from the bible teaches us that there are familiar spirits out there. They try to portray themselves as a deceased loved on to get you to come to them but are not your loved ones. The bible says it is but once to die and then the judgement. That means when you die you are judged and God determines where you’ll go and you stay there once he sends you there. No one or nothing can move you from that spot but God himself. The adversary knows this also and will play games with people who aren’t aware of this truth.
Please don’t take me wrong ok I’m just trying to help you. Believe me when I say I’m not being inconsiderate or cruel. The bible says:
14Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord. 15And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven.
In this case could mean set free from all these illnesses and made whole and live a normal life here. Or, it could mean set free from this sick body and off he’ll go to heaven where there will be no more pain and suffering.
You yourself said this is a very crucial time in your family’s life and you couldn’t be more accurate. I believe you love your father and want the best for him. The best thing to do is if you know someone a christian pastor who understands this scripture..call him and have him come and annoint your dads head with oil and pray over him. Bible says we have free will but your dads mind is ill right now trying to fight all this off so God will understand and forgive him any sins and will deliver him from this torment. Be prepared should God call him home. It may mean his time on earth is done. If God isn’t done with him on earth yet, God will heal him. You must believe. The bible says where two or more are gathered in my name, there will I be in their midst. If two of you agree, Jesus will be right in the middle and nothing can get by him. BELIEVE in Jesus healing and word. Your father is desparate for prayer right now. It is what he needs most. God bless you all and I will pray for you all.
May 5, 2011 at 12:00 pm #262997
My first guess would be that it’s one of his medications. He certainly has a lot to handle, the poor guy. Confusion is common in a person who isn’t feeling well and has so many health challenges.
The only time I’ve heard of people seeing those that have passed on is when they’re close to death.
The dying are medicated so much that you don’t hear much of it anymore, but in the old days people often felt visited by dead relatives. A hospice worker told me that it’s part of letting go of this world and moving into heaven.
Have your family doctor double check all his MDS and dosages.
May 5, 2011 at 12:37 pm #262993
I am in agreement with poster, Just Curious.
When my 84 year old husband was in the hospital for a double by pass, the hospital’s minister visited him and anointed him with oil and prayed over him. He has now been well for six years. Find out if your father-in-law’s hospital has a minister and if they do ask him for prayers.
Start praying chapter Psalms 91 in the Holy Bible over him each day. You do not have to be in the same room or house to do this. Just put his name in the verses. This is a chapter of protection. You can also read this over yourself and your other family members.
My husband takes several medications. He has three doctors that keep a check on him once per month. The first thing they do is check the medications he is taking and they also check to see if they need to be changed. I’m thinking that your father-in-laws medications are all wrong and need to be monitored because of some of the things he has been seeing. Make a list of each one and how strong the dosage is for each. Talk to all of his doctors to see if they need to be changed or eliminated. It is something that someone needs to do in your family.
God bless you and your family. I wish you well.
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