- June 1, 2010 at 12:29 pm#5801
Nothing that I have experienced in life feels better than when I’m able to live life in a spiritual sense. That being, when your intentions and thoughts are pure and not filled with selfishness, ego, greed, materialism, etc. As a male in my late 20’s what I find the hardest is staying away from sexually perverse thoughts. I find these thoughts almost impossible to completely do away with but, what are some recommended ways to suppress them or at least minimize them?
Thanks for all thoughts and help!
- June 1, 2010 at 1:24 pm #408860
Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is and whatever praiseworthy thing there is, continue considering THESE things
- June 1, 2010 at 2:12 pm #408805
- June 1, 2010 at 2:34 pm #408785
- June 1, 2010 at 3:33 pm #408729
- June 1, 2010 at 3:46 pm #408718
- June 1, 2010 at 4:31 pm #408679
I am not sure what you mean by “Sexually perverse” thoughts, but understand that it is normal, and not inherently “perverse” to have sexual interests.
I think the best suggestion would be:
1) a healthy, safe outlet. a significant other that you can express these thoughts/urges/ect with in a spiritually satisfying and positive way on a regular basis.
2) entirely not entertaining them. no … private expression… and shrugging them out of your mind. after a little while it should come more easily.
- June 1, 2010 at 5:29 pm #408628
- June 1, 2010 at 6:11 pm #408583
- June 1, 2010 at 6:24 pm #408573
I think it’s important to make sure you have another guy who you know is devoted to the same moral principles that you are that you can openly talk to about your temptations and who can help keep you accountable. It’s good to have someone to encourage you and pray for you about your struggles.
I’m not sure when your sexual thoughts occur, but a friend told me that my husband told him that when he talks to a woman, he always forces himself to look her in the eye, that way his eyes don’t wander to parts that he would consider disrespectful. We’ve also been honest with each other about things like this and have accepted that as humans in general and especially as a man, it is inevitable to appreciate beauty. However, it should stop there. I’m sure that he struggles with keeping it at that, but i think it’s also good for him to have a line drawn at what is ok to notice and what isn’t.
- June 1, 2010 at 6:58 pm #408539
I can understand your situation at your age. Most men love the beauty of a woman, and the peacefulness of a good woman.
Beginning when I was younger, and for the following 46 years, I was married to a woman who threw hissy fits if she did not get her way.
You can imagine how tempting it was for me to evaluate every woman I saw by asking myself, ‘Does this woman appear to be a woman with whom you could live in peace?
However, I suggest you try these two things.
1). Philippians 4:8-9.
2). Think of yourself as a servant to others. The more you become involved in helping others, the less you think of yourself.
- June 1, 2010 at 7:03 pm #408538
From what I can tell, being able to have “pure” spiritual intentions and thoughts is the same in today’s society as it has always been. There have always been things that could tempt us to do something that would be against our own best interests (i.e. lie, cheat, steal, etc.), and it’s always been about whether or not we give into those temptations. How we live our lives is a moment to moment thing, but what we also know to be true is that we all have the capacity to be kinder, gentler human beings.
- June 1, 2010 at 7:32 pm #408514
- June 1, 2010 at 7:41 pm #408504
Let me begin by saying that the suppression of sexual functions is very unnatural. We see the evidence of this in catholic Church’s, were the priest has suppressed his sexual desires to the point that he acts out in a very uncommon way.
Never suppress feeling that make us human, they will tend cause unstable conditions within the person, both mentally and physically.
I suggest that you find a outlet such as exercise(which lowers the testosterone in the body) or masturbation(which you can release frustration) or female companionship( you already know), or even counseling, if you feel that your thoughts are against the moral norms of society. Perversion can be categorized in thousands of terms, so it’s hard for me to make a complete assessment of the action you should take inorder to minimize your sexual desires…
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