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I have been praying, and praying and praying. My ego wants to lash out on him and the other women, but I know that will only bring more chaos. He refuses to give me a divorce and I cannot continue to stay with a man who refuses to be loyal. I am trying to wait on God to move in my marriage, but I am also tired of being taking advantage of. Pray my strength in the Lord. Any scriptures that I may have overlooked will be helpful.

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leave him and get a divorce

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waiting for God? that's your first problem.

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I dont have any scriptures for you. But what always helps me when I feel down is the fact that God does everything for a reason. Just know that your husband's disloyalty plays a role in Gods plan fo you. Just trust in the lord to know what is right for you and you will be fine
GL to you. God bless.

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God is not going to fix your marriage.
Nobody can make you stay somewhere you dont want to be.

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This will make you stronger. My sister in law once told me that "God does not ever give you something you can not handle." That always gives me strength. Good luck!

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There's no such thing as staying married because your spouse WON'T give you a divorce. You can get one whenever you want. As far as scriptures, why not go see your pastor/minister for advice?

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God recognizes cheating as a valid basis for divorce
http://www.religioustolerance.org/div_ok3.htm

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He broke your marriage vow that he made to God and you in front of everyone. He has no choice about "giving" you a divorce. You must do what you must do. Some women manage to stay with a husband who cheated, but some just can't. Have you met with your pastor/priest yet? Is your husband religious too? Is he remorseful? There are so many things to consider. I have been helped by the organization below and you can even call and they can counsel you by phone. Best of luck!

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I think that you waiting on God is a good start. But this may be a sign from God saying that you two weren't meant to be. Maybe God is telling you that its time to find someone else. in the Old testament there are several grounds on which one could get a divorce. one of them was having a spouse be unfaithful. so if you do get a divorce it isn't sin as long as you weren't adulterous. I suggest continue to pray for him. if you have to just pack up and leave. It's out of your hands. Let go and let God.

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Don't wait for God to fix your marriage, because he won't do it for you. Instead let God give you the strength to fix the problem yourself. Move out and get a divorce. I don't think you need your husband's approval, it just takes longer without it.
So move out and get your own life back on track. You husband thinks you don't have the will or the drive to leave him on your own. That's why he's been cheating so much and won't give you a divorce. So prove him wrong, leave him. You don't have to lash out at him to do it either, just leave. And don't budge an inch when he comes crying to take him back. Just shut the door in his face and keep on with your own recovery.
Good luck.

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That must really hurt. But just keep praying for your marriage and the other woman. Pray to help you to forgive them. That helped me to have better understanding of Gods will in my life.
Maybe you can separate and then take it from there

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When in the dark remember what God told you in the light.
Trust, my child with all your heart.
And never forget that rainbows are real even when we can not see them.
His krama will catch up to him it's only a matter of time.
I believe you can still get a divorce without him signing you just need a lawyer and proof and if he is how you says he is that shouldn't be too hard.

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No one is perfect, and I understand that its hard to know that your husband cheated. As a married man I would be upset and almost ready for a divorce if my wife did it but here is my intake to this. No matter how many times it has happened you forgive him. Understand that forgiving him is not just for him but for you. You forgive just as the lord forgives you. The bible says do not be unequally yolked and if that is the case something was bound to happen. Both of you need to be living for christ and he need to be the leader that christ gives a husband to be. If he is not, and he isn't trying to change then maybe you should reconsider you choice. Read Deut 24:1. Marriage is a life long commitment and it doesn't make sense to be unhappy. What ever choice you make be ferm in it and stand strong. Know that God doesn't always answer the way we think he will...
You have my prayers
Be Blessed

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Im so sorry to hear about your situation. I'm a Christian as well. You have the right to be angry. You dont have to stay with him just because you're married. I dont believe divorce is ok UNLESS theres cheating involved, and I wouldnt be able to stay with a cheater either. But, you dont have to technically divorce him. I've already decided for myself that if my husband ever does cheat on me, Im never remarrying, but I wont live with him either. There are more productive things I can do with my life. heres some scriptures on divorce and remarriage: http://www.gotquestions.org/divorce-remarriage.html
Again, I'm so sorry to hear about that, it must be so incredibly hard for you. My heart goes out to you.

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This is happening for a reason.... move on... and you will be happier....

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You have every right biblically to divorce this man and every biblical right to re-marry when and if you choose to.You can continue to pray for God to change him but we all have what is called the human "will" and that is something that we as individuals have to deal with for ones self, if he has no desire to change then that is what he will do (continue in sin) not to mention he could bring home a disease and give it to you, God forbid, but this is something you need to think about, if there are children involved his behavior is only injuring them and damaging their lives more so than a divorce would, he is a terrible example of a godly man to them and not the man God called him to be as a husband. One of the ten commandments that God gave us is Thou shalt not commit adultry. There are many referances in the bible to this, and God condones divorce only in this case.
Exodus 20:14
Proverbs 6:32
Matt. 5:27-28
Matt. 20:18
Mark 10:19
Luke 18:20
Lev. 20:10
Be at peace and know that whatever you decide to do in this matter as long as it is not morally wrong against your own soul, God will be on your side and help you through all things.

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God helps those who help themselves.
File for divorce. He can make it difficult, but he can't force you to stay married to him.

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Yes, in Matt 19:1-12 you will find your answer. God provides and allows for divorce, "if a man puts his wife away due to adultery", Study the word on Divorce...use a concordance and God will guide you. Keep in mind, you can file for a divorce, your spouse does not have to agree; however, the courts will grant it to you in a year anyway. Stay in prayer.

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He doesn't want to give you a divorce because legally you would have to pay him spousal support (unless you go to court and prove your case) "that's the way it is with the one who begins the divorce" but divorce on the case of adultery is biblical, although God hates divorce He has permitted it because as He says "because your hearts are hardened" but He was talking to the Jews of the days of moses, God prefers forgiveness for one another, of course I would divorce myself for the cause of unfaithfulness, but I might give a second chance first.

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Great advice you're talking about it so others will know! Will use for sure. But, I never thought of it before, but later learned, you have to bring about the situation that first brought you together and also stop doing a lot of mistakes we all do at first if you want to save your marriage

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I need prayers and scriptures that will change my husband forever not for a time and then he goes bag to unfaithful ways again.because today he is faithful tomorrow he is unfaithful. where can i find a lasting solution or do i tell God to give me a lasting solution.
shilah

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Lorena's advice was one of the best anyone has given me I believe that was for me..... Thank You!

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am not yet mairred to him. but we are about to wed, now he cheating on me, when i go to work he care of caling me like he use to. an when he get home he sleep an say dat is very tried, so i dont know what to do, pls kindly help me.

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