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How to handle negative emotions all times?


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I face negative emotions. They are triggered by two different way.
1. External person or situation or event.
2. My own temperament combined with subconscious mind.
How I can handle these things? I am looking for long term solution.
I am looking for long term solution rather than short term. ie.. I am not looking how to act at a particular moment. Because those advises are forgotten when negative emotions are converted into negative act.

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Trying reading the Dalai Lama's "Destructive Emotions". It is a no-nonsense approach to what you seek. It will not solve anything you don't want to solve. Your personality and temperament are yours and so is the responsibility for your actions.

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it is a difficult task to kill the negative emotions as it is a part of your nature. but it is not impossible. auto suggestion several times a day to give a positive reaction instead of negative response to the situations will help you. you need to increase your skill and build self confidence. you can yourself analyse the causes that bring negative emotions. just removing the causes by positive action will help you.

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There are 18 negative emotions or negative mental effects.
12 negative emotions are triggered by universal conclusions. Humiliation, for example is triggered when you conclude “my rank has decreased”.
6 negative emotions are triggered by sensory stimuli. Disgust, for example, is triggered by the smell of rotting flesh.
You can avoid triggering these negative emotions by avoid what triggers them. You can avoid feeling humiliation by avoiding people who criticize you. You avoid feeling disgust by avoiding people who stink.
Once triggered, some emotions can be stopped and some cannot.
Of the 12 negative emotions triggered by conclusions, 9 are punishments and 3 are coercions.
The 9 conceptual punishments will always trigger a negative effect when you are reminded of the triggering conclusion. The 9 conceptual punishments are: three types of grief, heartbreak three types of guilt, humiliation, envy. You will always feel humiliation, for example, when you are reminded of a situation that embarrassed you.
The 3 conceptual coercions can be stopped by a second conclusion. The three conceptual are: jealousy, revenge, compassion. Revenge, for example, is triggered by “X harmed me by breaking the rules” and stopped by “I harmed X as much as X harmed me”. You will stop feeling revenge if you retaliate.
Of the 6 negative emotions triggered by sensory stimuli, 2 are punishments and 4 are coercions.
The 2 sensory punishments trigger a negative effect as long as you detect the triggering sensory stimuli. The 2 sensory punishments are: disgust, repugnance. You keep feeling disgust, for example, if you keep smelling a stinky person.
The 4 sensory coercions are triggered by the absence of sensory stimuli and stopped by its presence or return. The 4 sensory coercions are: hunger, loneliness, boredom and lust. Loneliness, for example, is triggered when you have not seen or heard a familiar person for a few days. Loneliness stops when you see or hear a familiar person.
The specific triggers and stops for each of these 18 negative emotions can be found at

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This can be a very difficult thing to face and handle. The Bible says that our spirit is in constant struggle with our flesh. The only way we can win over it is to deny it. Don't give in to it. It is impossible to go through life trying to avoid ALL people and circumstances that may bother or upset us. It just can't be done.
Even in a remote place where we are completely alone there will be something to upset us if we haven't learned how to conquer those weaknesses. Plus, there will always be people in our lives who's life purpose is to destroy our happiness. They will seek out to destroy that which they desire but cannot achieve.
It is a constant renewal of the mind that can keep us in control. Constantly being aware of our state of mind and where we are headed, stopping long before we get to a place where we regret something we've said or done. Constantly acknowledging our current state of mind. "So as a man thinketh, so he is." Think positive and keep in mind that you are smarter than that and don't give in.