I want to be numb to my problems. But does doing that make them go haywire from being neglected?
I have problems with my fiance’s sister and lots of wedding drama and my fiancé has been nothing but a jerk lately…
I am so sick of being a ball of nerves… I’m sick of wanting to kill myself. I just want to be numb. Can meditation achieve this?

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  • Instead of calling it numb, we can call it making ‘peace’ with the situation and accepting it for what it is rather than getting caught and suffering over it. If this is goal, then yes meditation is definitely something that will allow you to make peace with the things that happen to you in your life. Having been a meditator for the past 3.5 years I can swear by the results.

  • Give the licensed counselors a call 24/7 at 1-800-525-LOVE and tell them your problems. They are often helpful.

    Read, if you have time, “Emotions: Transforming Anger, Fear and Pain,” Marilyn Barrick, and “For Women Only,” Shaunti Feldhahn. Reviews at http://www.amazon.com

    Meditation is essentially sitting in comparative serenity, observing one’s thoughts and feelings, and simply not giving them particular encouragement or energy. http://www.freemeditations.com has many kinds.

    Also, regular walks in a safe place in nature do more to calm self than any other typical activity, including medication (sic).

    Take care of yourself; Shaunti has written a companion book, “For Men Only;” it may be helpful to your fiance.

  • Meditation isn’t about being numb, and it doesn’t give you that, it helps you find inner peace and helps you deal with your problems. There is no way to go numb and you don’t want that to happen. You shouldn’t ignore your problems but that isn’t to say that you should let them over take you either. To put it simply you need to put the issues into a little corner and deal with them one day at a time. Ignorance is bliss they say, so ignore the inconsequential issues and deal with the big ones, save them for later. If you take care of the suicidal tendencies everything else will fall in line. Go to a Dr get some help for that, if you are on meds make a change get some more one on one talking time, talking really does help relieve stress. If you take away those thoughts then you will feel so much better and less nervous. Maybe your fiance isn’t being so much of a jerk but your emotional state making you feel that way. Maybe he is though, but people are emotional creatures they can pick up on what those close to them feel and can mirror it back. So if you seriously take care of that main issue you are having, everything else will become much better 🙂 And for the family issue, there is always going to be at least one ^^; that is just how it goes. Just ignore her ^^

  • you can’t ignore your problems. and if you shove them away, or don’t deal with them at all, they will just get worse and be harder to handle. what you need to do is aknowledge your problems, change what you should, and accept the things that you can not change. you have to realize that some things are beyond your control. take deep breaths, just relax, and you will be fine. 🙂 your problems will end eventually, so they’re not worth getting hung up over.

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