When someone lacks self-respect, they live their life miserably. They shoulder the burdens of regret, shame, loathing and blame. They are prone to engaging themselves to self-destructive behavior because they have little value for themselves.
A practitioner of Zen will tell you that everything you do should be done with a purpose, with awareness, and with intent. A Zen tea drinking meditation involves using intent and awareness in the preparation, making, and drinking of tea.
Each of us has an inner child or a true self. This inner child is molded according to our childhood experiences. Happy childhoods produce an inner child who is contented and at peace while abusive childhoods create a lost and wounded one.