• Hah… no , not as much as possible. That covers a lot of ground.

    Are you referring specifically to Wiccan? Are one of you Wiccan? If either of you are in a coven you might check with elders of your trad.

    Basically you have a lot of freedom to design it. Wiccan weddings are generally referred to as a handfasting.

    My husband and I were handfasted (I’m a Wiccan Witch, he’s a generic Pagan); we were married by my High Priest and Priestess in full ritual style (circle, quarters, invocations, etc.). We had programs printed out for non-Pagan family & friends to follow along so they would understand what is going on (though most guests were Pagan). Our hands were bound and we lept a broom. We exchanged rings and vows. We had a drum band and we danced with our guests. We bought a special cup to drink out of during the ceremony. Then we had a huge barbecue and partied.

    A good place to start would be reading up. A couple of books you might find useful:
    A Witch’s Bible by Janet and Stewart Farrar
    Witchcraft Today Series, Book Two: Rites of Passage (edited) by Chas S. Clifton

    Another good place to begin would be looking for Wiccan/Pagan clergy in your town; try http://www.witchvox.com or your local unitarian universalist church with a CUUPs division. Once you find someone who can perform the ceremony they will help you design it and probably be able to direct you to resources.

  • Witches and Wiccans aren’t necessarily the same thing, although if you’re a witch (depending on your other spiritual beliefs) I suppose you might find a Wiccan handfasting ceremony pleasant and meaningful.

    The best advice I can give you is to find a book called “Handfasting and Wedding Rituals: Welcoming Hera’s Blessing”:


    It is the reference book I refer to most often when designing Wiccan wedding services.

    You can also find wedding clergy in your area through Witchvox: http://www.witchvox.com/xvn.html

    Best of luck to you both, and congratulations. 🙂

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