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Can a marriage survive if you believe the same thing but aren't in the same place spiritually?

My husband and I were both raised baptist. We have the same beliefs but I have had I guess a spiritual awakening. For the first time in my life I feel the power of God working through me, helping me guiding me. He has never felt that. That’s not the problem. I just feel like we are not spiritually on the same level with God and our life. Like I don’t want to watch offensive behavior and he says or talks to me in a manner in which hurts my spirit. But he doesn’t even understand what that means. Is this just a small problem that will eventually work itself out?
to clear it up he doesn’t say mean things to me he talks to me in a way that brings down my spiritual happiness (that sounds so bizarre to me). Im kinda new to this feeling. They aren’t mean to most people just negative in general. I am not looking fo an excuse to leave him. I will pray for him to enjoy everything that I am enjoying.

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  1. Sounds to me that you will need to do a lot of praying for your spouse.
    Also I would seek guidance from the Holy Spirit.
    I Cr 13;8a

  2. yes you will realize that it’s not GODS WILL but you looking for a reason to leave him….. i know i wont get best answer but i know I’m correct and you will one day……..

  3. If he’s talking to you bad that has nothing to do with religion. He just needs to stop.
    My husband and I are very different spiritually. He’s pretty much an Atheist. We have a really cool relationship though, and he respects my beliefs and I his. You both just need to respect each other and you’ll be fine. Good luck 🙂

  4. If he has the Spirit of God in him and is truly saved, let God deal with him. Pray much about it. If he’s NOT saved, well, pray much about that, too! Either way, there’s ALWAYS hope!

  5. it can be worked out if both of you are willing to work on it. But it will be harder because you’re not in the same “flow.” If you both will try to be sensitive to each others differences in this area, then you have a good chance. You are going to have to put guards up in your spirit to not be offended easily and try to understand that he just doesn’t “get it” yet. In the meantime, really pray that he comes to know God in a real, living relationship like you have experienced. It will make all the difference in your marriage. God bless.

  6. There is a possibility that he will change and become better.
    I thing that I’ve also recently gone through a spiritual awakening, but I’m younger than you, and not married. I’ve got time to pick someone similar.
    Remember this: You two may be the same, it’s just that you’re closer to being perfect.
    It can work out, but not if you feel that he isn’t at least going in the right direction (slowly becoming nicer, more religious and good, etc.)
    Peace.

  7. Marriages survive on many levels. As a man I am so disappointed in the spiritual level of so many I come in contact with. They expect the wife to DO the religion in the home and take the kids to church etc. What you have is what God planned: that we could have a real relationship with Him. You never have to settle for anything less. Your marriage can survive. You may always be the more spiritual, but you can introduce him to the lover of your soul. You can pray and prod him to good works. You can simply love him; and lead him thusly into many things.

  8. Leaven: What you have encountered is “spirituality”. This is very different than religion . Spirituality is about relationship with God, the Father through Jesus Christ. You are experiencing a inner desire to move closer and ahead towards God [Jesus] and your husband is being indifferent towards you. Focus on your relationship with God. Remember; compatibility in this area is different because of your aroused desire to become closer to God. Your husband does not comprehend this because it is YOU that is being drawn closer. Sad to say, the onus will be on you to “weather” the storm since your husband is totally oblivious to your experience. Be patient – love him – he is your husband . You do not have to tolerate religious abuse though – ask him to stop it and tell him how you feel about his talking down to you. Oftentimes; when a person changes for the better (quite a bit) in a relationship, the relationship with the other mate becomes strained. This is attributed to the abrupt change. I hope and pray that this experience of yours doesn’t “tax” your marriage to the point of separation. Ask God [Jesus] to direct you with His love and guidance to where and what He wants for you to do. You are very precious and valuable to God – He cares deeply for you -please; never forget that – it’s genuine and profound the love He has for you !!!

  9. Yes, it can survive! God is almighty, but only faith can do the trick. Pray, and seek counseling from a pastor. That’s what I would do.
    It sounds like you two have a communication problem, though. Don’t let things fall to pieces – it’s important that he learns to respect your feelings, even if he doesn’t feel spiritually awakened.
    Keep working at it, and good luck!

  10. A rightful prelude to All things in life: pRaYeR!!!
    “Heavenly FATHER, I do come now to YOU, in the
    Name of your Beloved, and in the Name of My first real
    love: Lord Jesus Christ; and so I do also as much by
    the EVER~EFFECTUAL ministry of Your beautiful and
    awesome Holy Spirit; Whom will call all things learned
    in YOU to the present forefront of my mind! So I thank
    You Lord, and in faith, by Your grace….this I do pray!~”
    I just want to say that I have been where you are at ~ for the past nearly 8 or 9 odd years. *IT IS IMPORTANT that you know that I am not “preaching” the very thing that I simply “CANNOT” practice at this time, its a long and very personal story~ but I am just giving you my advise on the issue in the -hypothetical sense- that I may one day be free from this marriage.
    The first question I have I guess, would be= where do HIS priorities lie? You seem to be the one who is trying to make JESUS as the most definite CENTRAL FOCUS of your life?
    It would be a whole new thing altogether, say~ if he just came to Christ, and was THUS a “babe in Christ” and had not been shown or discipled by anyone yet, all of the FOUNDATIONAL matters that always follow a TRUE believer’s lifestyle. Does your husband even know the significance of the basics:
    **PRAYER; OUR POWERFUL MEANS OF COMMUNICATION?
    **READING, MEDITATING & THE STUDY OF THE BIBLE
    **IMPORTANCE OF BELONGING TO A “HOME CHURCH” SO
    AS IN ORDER TO BE “FED” BY THE SPOKEN WORD OF
    GOD? AND LIKEWISE, A PLACE WHERE HE CAN FEEL
    FREE TO WORSHIP THE LORD, AND BE ENCOURAGED, &
    LIKEWISE BE AN ENCOURAGEMENT TO OTHERS OF THE
    SAME LIKEMINDED FAITH?
    **DOES HE PLACE OR SET ASIDE A TIME EACH DAY
    WHERE IT IS UNDERSTOOD THAT HE IS TO BE LEFT
    ALONE~ IN ORDER THAT HE MAY HAVE PERSONAL
    DEVOTIONAL TIME WITH THE LORD ( so it is the same with
    all believers!)…..WHERE HE IS FREE TO JUST PRAISE &
    WORSHIP ALONE, IN A PERSONAL FELLOWSHIP WITH
    THE LORD?
    *I call these the 4 Essentials of any Christian walk. Prayer, Study, Church/Fellowship, & Time alone with the LORD.
    I think that without all of these, we will begin to become spiritually anemic and wither up and die off spiritually. I have seen it in my own life and know that this is the makings of a disaster when one follows the LORD as the TOP PRIORITY of every moment of every day, whilst the other is neither here nor there on the matter–just riding the fece, or in my own husbands case…..when I speak of sanctification, and that it can ONLY occur as we SUBMIT ourselves to the leading of the Holy Spirit; and for 8 yrs. now, I get the same familiar speech on how “God has him where He wants him- and that if there is something the LORD wants my husband to change–well, then GOD will tell him!”
    There is NO spiritual leadership on his part, there is NO spiritual backbone! Neither he nor I are wearing any armor of God—and NO MATTER what calamity, hardship, loss and brushes with homelessness we and our FOUR children have endured, and continue to endure…..HE JUST WONT TAKE THE HINT THAT GOD IS CALLING HIM TO WAKE UP and SEEK HIM!
    I have endured years of alcoholic rages, years of cleaning up his messes and years of explaining to our VERY young children what it is that “makes daddy act that way”. I’ve become quite the toolbelt diva as I repair cupboards ripped from the walls, and literally-countless broken windows.
    I will not listen to the junk that worldly psychologists put out; about how “I” am “in control” of my destiny, and in control of what affects me. The bible makes it clear in many different passages that you “BECOME” like the ones you run with. That is just plain commonsense anyhow. So, I do declare that HE HAS CHANGED ME.
    We met in late Nov. of 1998, and were married on March 2nd of 2000. Not even two weeks later, our first of four was conceived. I strongly felt the Holy Spirit, ( much earlier on) telling me to NOT marry him, but hey! “love is blind”, right>??? The moment after we were married I had the most horrible feeling ever. I have gone from a woman who loved the LORD and prayed fervently and saw my prayers fulfilled, from one who attended church whenever the doors were open, from one who did not even think of leaving home without my Bible……to a complete mess. The hard years of pleading, and praying~ begging and borowing….the difficult times when he would leave me an the kids alone for weeks or months and we literally had nothing or no one to turn to.
    It is increasingly difficult to come back to the LORD~ NOT because of the misguided belief in condemnation, but bc’ I now am disabled socially, psycologically and physically. I KNEW in the early days that he was drawing me away from the LORD; and by then it was too late- as we quickly were married and conceived out first so quickly likewise.
    You said this: “For the first time in my life I feel the power of God working through me, helping me guiding me. He has never felt that.” Well, Somewhere along the line, my husband made his false conversion and then quickly hoped aboard the “ONCE SAVED~ALWAYS SAVED” train. There is NO changing his mind, and I am on the other hand about the frame of mind that one is better off being safe then sorry, IDK? The WORD does say that we are “SEALED unto the day of Redemption by the HOLY SPIRIT!”, but there are other scrips that I cannot even discern anymore bc Ive been apart from fellowship with Jesus for so long!!!! :*( :*( :*( :”*(
    That is only a sliver of my story. The MORAL IS THIS: Jesus HIMSELF said the if thine right hand offends thee, cut it off. (and same with the eyes____analogies of course, but u seem learned enough to know their meanings!). The Gospels also repeat that “IN COMPARISON of our LOVE for CHRIST and the GREAT COMMISSION~ it is to “seem as though” we hate our very most precious loved ones. Once again, I believe you can discern that JESUS is not telling us to hate our loved ones, but HE is rather saying “COUNT THE COST B4 U TAKE UP YOUR CROSS:”/////// If there be ANY”THING: OR ANY”ONE” THAT INHIBITS OUR CALLING FOR HIS KINGDOM, THEN WE SHOULD “CUT THEM OFF!”.
    I CAN TELL YOU THIS: I HAVE WASTED SO MUCH ENERGY AND TIME ON ALL THESE MENIAL THINGS THAT ARE NOTHING BUT TEMPORAL……IVE DONE NOTHING IN THESE LAST 8 YEARS WITH ETERNITY IN MIND (EXCEPT FOR THE TEACHING OF MY KIDS TO PRAY AND TO TRUST JESUS WITH ALL OF THEIR HEARTS).
    ALL i CAN ADVISE TO YOU, MY FRIEND:
    Is to call a persoal fast and prayer time< and seek with all ur heart whether u can be a strong enough witness< or whether he will change your direction away from the lord?

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