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Buddhists: Is avoiding or ignoring a bad person considered to be a negative act which produces bad karma?

When I dislike someone, I just steer clear of them and act as if they don’t exist. I have no bad intentions when I do this. It’s not to harm them but rather b/c I choose not to be in the presence of someone that makes me feel bad. In the past, I’ve noticed that this caused much much hatred towards me by the other party. However, that’s not my intention. Is it evil to continue doing this? Is it a negative act? If bin Laden approached and tried to recruit me and I walked the other way, is this bad?

8 COMMENTS

  1. avoiding someone is not bad karma
    when you avoid them you are not hurting them
    and when you avoid someone bad your are avoiding danger from yourself
    walking away is never bad

  2. No, it is not. We should not carry anger or resentment with us. However, there is nothing wrong with avoiding someone who wishes to harm you (even psychologically).
    I hope this helps.

  3. there is no bad karma, there are no bad people. There are only things that either bring you closer to your goal of enlightenment or lead you away from it. So you must ask yourself which act will enrich your life, end suffering, engender lovingkindness, and which act will not do any of these things.

  4. See if you can feel compassion for this person. You
    certainly don’t have to like everybody but you
    shouldn’t feel ill will towards them either.

  5. actually thats the best path, karma is a state of balance, not negative nor positive… people who seek to hurt others produce negative energy… wanting to stay clear of negative people helps one stay balanced.. that is the best you can do for yourself and your environment.

  6. “The man who foolishly does me wrong, I will return to him the protection of my most ungrudging love. The more evil comes from him.. the more good shall come from me”
    Buddha

  7. If you choose to “act as if they don’t exist,” then you harm that person by denying his/her existence and the effect of that person on your life.
    The answer to your question is in your question itself. You have noticed that when you “choose not to be in the presence” of someone, this “causes much more hatred” toward you from that person.
    Surely, this is clear evidence of cause and effect at work. You already understand how your actions produce undesirable results.
    Our “job” as Buddhists is to heal the suffering in the world. You cannot heal suffering by avoiding it. This includes the suffering in your own mind, with its likes and dislikes. This kind of mind makes opposites — you/me, like/dislike, accept/avoid, and so on.
    If you can heal your own mind, you will be able to reach out to others (even those who repulse you) in a beneficial way.

  8. Just the opposite. By walking away, you are removing yourself from a situation where unwholesome mental states can arise. Therefore walking away in this case is good karma.

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