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  • Reading positive, uplifting new age books helps. “A Course In Miracles” is a good book. It made me realize (to my human comprehension) just how deeply and completely and unconditionally God Loves us. I read a book called “The Changing Conditions of Your World” by Gloria Lee. It changed my life. It’s message of Love and the changes coming to this planet gave me such hope and joy, it was incredible. I look forward to the wonders we will soon witness taking place. Keep your mind on only the beauty of God’s world. Look on every person as yourself, the Holy Spirit of God that we all are. Embrace your Divine Heritage, and trust that God will always guide us to what is best for us…even when we think we know better! lol

  • I’ve found that meditative chanting has helped raise my frequency. I’ve found some great chants from people like the Dali Lama that I can listen to and learn to emulate. I’ve found that the law of attraction helps the best with removing the lower frequencies. I try to focus every time I have a negative thought and try to turn it to a more positive one or to see others as learning and needing my help so I don’t get upset with them and try to focus my whole life around attracting the positive and teaching that as I do. It’s amazing how it catches on. Good to have you back again my friend.

  • *Love vs. Selfish Attachments – a Buddhist Perspective:

    “Love is the sincere wish for others to be happy and to be free from suffering. Having realistically recognized others’ kindness as well as their faults, love is always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior motives to fulfill our self-interest or to fulfill our desires; we love others simply because they exist. Attachments exaggerates others’ good qualities and makes us crave to be with them. When we’re with them, we’re happy but when we’re separated from them, we are miserable. These attachments are linked with expectations of what others should be or do. Is love as it is usually understood in most societies really love? Let’s examine this a bit more. Generally we are attracted to people either because they have qualities we value or because they help us in some way. If we observe our own thought processes carefully – we’ll notice that we look for specific qualities in others. Some of these qualities we find attractive, others are those our parents, or society value. We examine someone’s looks, education, financial situation, social status. This is how most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value to us. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they help us, make us feel secure, listen to what we have to say, care for us when we are sick, we consider them good people and it is this type of people we are most likely to be more attracted to. But this is very biased, for we judge them only in terms of how they relate to us, as if we are the most important person in the world. After we’ve judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them it appears to us as if goodness is coming from them, but if we are more aware, we recognize that we have projected this goodness onto them. Desiring to be with the people who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo’s – when we’re with these people, we’re up, when we’re not with these people, we’re down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with those people will be and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we’re disappointed, or may become angry. We want them to change so that they will they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from the other people. Our problems arise not because others aren’t who we thought they we’re, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they aren’t. Checklist: “I Love You if __________ ” What we call love is most often attachments. It is actually a disturbing attitude that overestimates the qualities of another person. We then cling to tightly to that person, thinking our happiness depends on that person. Love, on the other hand, is an open and calm, relaxed attitude. We want someone to be happy, and free from suffering simply because they exist. While attachments are uncontrolling and too sentimental. Love is direct and powerful. Attachments obscure our judgment and we become impatient, angry, and impartial, helping only our dear ones and harming those who we don’t like. Love clarifies our minds and we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachments are based on selfishness, while love is founded upon cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to the eyes. Love looks beyond all the superficial appearances. If we see unattractive, dirty, ignorant people, we feel repulsed because our minds want to know attractive, intellectual, clean and talented people. Love recognizes that regardless of the others’ appearances, their experience is the same as ours: they wish to be happy, to be free from sufferings, and to do their best to avoid problems. When we’re overly attached to a person, we’re not mentally and emotionally free. We overly depend on and cling to the person to fulfill our mental and especially our emotional needs. We fear losing the person, feeling we’d be incomplete without him. However, this does not mean that we should suppress our emotional needs or become aloof, alone and totally independent, for that too does not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs, and slowly seek to eliminate them. Some emotional needs may be so strong that they can’t be dissolved immediately. If we try to suppress them or pretend they do not exist, we become anxious and insecure. In this case, we can do our best to fulfill our needs while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others rather than to understand them. In all honesty, our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfishness obscuring our own minds. We ‘can’ develop self-confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a selfless human being with many magnificent qualities, then we’ll develop a true and accurate feeling of self-confidence. And then we’ll seek to increase love – without attachments, to increase compassion, to cultivate lovingkindness, patience, compassion, generosity, understanding and wisdom. Under the influence of attachments we’re bound by our emotional reactions to others. When they are nice to us, we’re happy. When they ignore us or speak sharply to us, we take it personally and are unhappy. But pacifying these attachments doesn’t mean we become hard-hearted. Rather, without attachments there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine impartial love for them. We’ll be actively involved with them. As we learn to subdue our selfish attachments, we can have successful friendships and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer because of the freedom and respect which the relationships will be based on. However, our lifestyles and interests may be more compatible with those of some people more so than with others and that is alright. In any case, our relationships will be based on mutual love, mutual interests, and the wish to help each other in life”.

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