Discussion Forum

Are women sexually selfish and lesbians?

1.Are there women who desire men just as men desire them?
2.Are there women who give an equal amount of foreplay?
3.Are there women who give as much pleasure as they take and bring their men to multiple orgasms through prostate stimulation and tantra?
4.Are there women who don’t put their pleasure first? It seems women get to relax and let go while men have to worry about their woman.
5.Are there women who initiate sex as much as their man initiates?
6.Are there women who do as much work during sex as the man? Do they work even when a man is on top the way a man would work when a woman is on top?
7.Are there women who fulfill their men’s fantasies just as much as he fulfills theirs?
8.Are there women who don’t use sex as a control mechanism?

Men are more selfless and proactive. Women are selfish and reactive.

“As much as I would like to disagree with you I have to admit this is a mostly accurate statement, I’m sure there are women out there who are not so selfish….and maybe that comes with age I’m only 25 so I’m not quite seasoned yet. But from my experience this is fairly true”

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnvN2YRilMMOKLuc9KR.Mtbty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090715063136AAnbv9r

Men give MORE stimulation. Men give MORE foreplay.

“It may be true to a certain degree due to anatomy (women need more stimulation/foreplay),”

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoWSoADeQmszLPjpWkBj2C7ty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090621144837AA7mSb5

“When she peers into the giant forest, Chivers told me, she considers the possibility that along with what she called a “rudderless” system of reflexive physiological arousal, women’s system of desire, the cognitive domain of lust, is more receptive than aggressive. “One of the things I think about,” she said, “is the dyad formed by men and women. Certainly women are very sexual and have the capacity to be even more sexual than men, but one possibility is that instead of it being a go-out-there-and-get-it kind of sexuality, it’s more of a reactive process. If you have this dyad, and one part is pumped full of testosterone, is more interested in risk taking, is probably more aggressive, you’ve got a very strong motivational force. It wouldn’t make sense to have another similar force. You need something complementary. And I’ve often thought that there is something really powerful for women’s sexuality about being desired. That receptivity element. At some point I’d love to do a study that would look at that.””

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=4&_r=1

“The generally accepted therapeutic notion that, for women, incubating intimacy leads to better sex is, Meana told me, often misguided. “Really,” she said, “women’s desire is not relational, it’s narcissistic” – it is dominated by the yearnings of “self-love,” by the wish to be the object of erotic admiration and sexual need. Still on the subject of narcissism, she talked about research indicating that, in comparison with men, women’s erotic fantasies center less on giving pleasure and more on getting it. “When it comes to desire,” she added, “women may be far less relational than men.””

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=7&_r=1

I know some people will justify that type of selfishness with gender differences but its the equivalent of saying its ok for men to be takers because women are givers.

If women don’t desire men as much as vice versa are most women lesbians?

15 Comments

  • stop the analysis men have been doing this for decades and are still confused. For you to sit there, alone, mind wandering, bored sick. And trying to figuring out female sexuality for the purpose of getting quick sex. Will not help you, as all woman are different. Understand your own, sexual functions, in being a man. Get out meet women befriend, them have sex. And stop hiding behind magazines and books.

  • On a little bit of rant, aren’t you?

    Well, I’m good with everything except the prostate massage….that’s a bit much. Don’t get upset with her for not gloving-up for you…yuck!

    BTW, if you want some love and affection, lay off the chastising. It’s kind of a turn-off.

  • Got dumped huh? Sorry life does move forward, you’ll find another woman, you will have sex again and it will be good… let it go and put it in the past… you all women are potential lesbians, just like all men are potential homo’s… we know our own brand best… but we chose to go to the opposing side for sex… that’s why it’s called hetero… think about it ; )

  • Are you from earth?
    No.
    1) Yes
    2) Yes
    3) Yes
    4) Yes and you’re wrong.
    5) Yes
    6) Yes and yes.
    7) Yes
    8)Yes

    Like I said, are you from earth? Every woman knows it’s men who are selfish when it comes to sex. What planet are you really from? It sounds to me like you use sex as a control mechanism, or at least your having to work at it at all…

    No man ever gives more stimulation or foreplay. Can you tell time?

    And you think men’s desire is not narcissistic?

    It sounds to me like you don’t have any clue about how to be a good lover to a woman and have experienced a lot of frustration, so now you simply blame women and say because you don’t know what you’re doing, all women must be lesbian. Like I said, it sounds like you are trying to use sex as a manipulative control mechanisms. That’s never going to improve your sex life, you know.

  • I’ll just chime in to say that notion that women need more foreplay than a man is a misnomer. If he’s a “minute-man” this is the first issue to address.

    Most people just don’t care enough about sex to really learn about it.

  • Seems you are trying to wrap up a woman’s thinking, ideas, wishes, dreams etc…. in a few words. They are human beings and are all different.
    Women are smarter than you think.

  • Yes, there are women who do every one of the questions you listed. I, for one, don’t use sex as a control mechanism, and initiate it more than my boyfriend does, and desire him as much as he desires me. You must be pretty jaded to think all this.

    As far as your final statement about most women being lesbians; that doesn’t even make sense. I think you’re reading waaay too much into this idea. Sex is supposed to be fun, among other things. If it bothers you that much, don’t have it.

  • That was a wall of text. But just so you know, to enjoy sex a woman physically NEEDS more foreplay. That’s just reality. Take your beef up with nature I guess. I give what I receive so generalizing doesn’t seem to be beneficial.

  • In answer to the first 8 of your questions… yes there are. In answer to your last question… no, not all women are lesbians.

    You seem very bitter and bored.

  • You lost any semblence of argument at “Men are more selfless and proactive. Women are selfish and reactive.”

    Please rant in smaller paragraphs.

    In any case, no most women aren’t lesbians, if they were, there would be fewer people in the marriage and divorce section as only a few states allwo them to marry right now.

  • What made you decide to wrap 500 questions up as one question then post it?

    Women aren’t complicated, they just respond to instinct and hormones like most animals do. Don’t give them any intellectual heavy lifting, and they’ll do okay.

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