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If we go to Heaven when we die, then why are people upset about dying?

I’m have a bit of an existential crisis. I don’t know why we’re here, we’re all going to die one day, and I think why not just get it over now? I’m not going to kill myself (even though I often want to, and I do see a therapist, take medication, etc etc but I’ve been depressed since kindergarten)

What I mean is, when they have a near-death encounter such as an accident, cancer, heart attack, why are religious/spiritual people so happy and thanking God for letting them live? I don’t understand that. If you believe you are going to Heaven, wouldn’t you want to get there ASAP?

And then when a loved one is sick, and they pull through, but they’re now incapacitated in some way, why are we happy that “at least they’re alive!” Wouldn’t they be happier in Heaven with God instead?

I would like to break out of this existential crisis & this is one of the issues with it that bothers me. Often life seems pointless and cruel, in my opinion, w/ all the suffering and abuse of children.
I do have a child. He is almost 3 and he is severely disabled from birth (quadriplegic cerebral palsy). I’m sure that this has further tainted my view on things. I would not kill myself and leave him here motherless.

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  • Because it is extremely hard to actually let go of life, even the most spiritual of people find it hard to leave worldly desires (such as living) behind. It is kind of like playing that game in which you fall backward and let someone catch you. You know they are there, you know they will catch you, but we stay stuck to our instinctual reaction to falling. Similarly, our entire life we have lived in this world. Even though we know there is something afterwards, it is just instinctualy hard to take the plunge. Our brain forces us to fight and refuses to let the soul go.

    All this is without taking into account the fact that we are scared of what we might face after life.

  • So, many people think this life is all there is, but what they dont know is what the Bible says, and what they DO know, and its sad, is BELIEVE what they hear. Just don’t believe anything and accept it as truth… search for.. really, …like seriously why humans are here and what is our purpose, is there a heaven, there are answers in the Bible. When you go to Catholic, or Christian or whatever church and are told what to believe, ask them why, look for proof so you know that it is true, in your heart, so you can see the evidence and you know its true. Pray to find the truth and if you look for it, you will find it and at last won’t be scared to die, like 90% of the world’s population.

  • You have a lot of excellent points…I agree.

    So far no one has figured out why humans or all of these animals are here on earth. Hopefully someday, (not in our lifetime), scientist will discover how life became a relality here on earth.
    It makes no sense that there may be a heaven or hell. When we die, I think our bodies and our spirit is just dead. People would just like to believe there is an after life because it’s hard to say good-bye to those we love.
    Even if people think they will see their loved ones again in heaven they know it won’t be until they die and they will miss having that person in their life.

  • have you ever wondered why is is so easy to do wrong and you have to make a conscience effort to do that which is right?, Have you ever wonder why you do not know why you were born, you do not know why you are alive and you do not know where you are going? well, all the questions carry with them a simple answer, you are Dead, now wait, hear me out. The Bible tells us that because we have not believed in Him (Jesus) we are condemed already. your body is alive but your soul is dead, your soul dictates to your body the negative emotions, the feelings of uncertainity, the emptyness, because there is no life in you, and the real you is in your soul, that is the you that is looking out through your eye sockets right now, you are dead in your sins, the Bible says the wages of sin is death, well people sin all the time, but you do not see them dropping over dead, do you? that is because there soul is dead, so if you want to do right, if you want to know why you are here and what your purpose is for being alive, then you need life, and the only one that can give you life is Jesus Christ. Jesus said, I AM the way the truth and the Life, repent of your sin and ask forgiveness and put your complete faith and trust in Jesus Christ, for only Jesus Christ can give you Life

  • We dont understand what will happen to us after we die.

    We may know, but never understand while we are still alive.

  • It only tells me one thing, that people are naturally afraid of the great unknown – dying, ceasing to exist. Religions all over the world recognized this as an ace in the hole and waste no time in claiming that only their religion can make you go to heaven, or have a better next life, etc.

    Here’s the problem: no matter what version of the afterlife you
    try to convince yourself into believing, the better part of your mind tells you otherwise.

    Here’s the solution: ditch the bs, stop feeling responsible for the world around you, and party!

  • Is so know what you mean, I wondered about this for weeks last year, It’s like what the heck is the point of living if every person is so bad to each other so often and why there are so many bad things that happen to you etc, it would be much better to be with God etc and be in “heaven” because its HEAVEN you know? but then I came up with my own theory, God gave us free-will, so he threw us down on the earth to test us out for heaven so that it stays “HEAVEN” being great etc and when its time he doesn’t want people that shouldn’t be in there etc, he have us free-will 100% even though people are born in poverty-prone places like parts of Africa, people born in broken homes, bad environments etc (bad starts) its still up to the individual to make their choices no matter how hard it may be you still have the ultimate power to go where you want to go, its not like God is just going to go “oh yeah” and change it so everyone has the good life, I got so frustrated and mad that I just wanted to go away and find someplace to get away from it all and just sit there and cry but I stuck in there/still am and am trying to transform my life around. I think in a few years I’ll make it and I’ll be glad that I’m living you know? and I’ll appreciate everything because I’ve been so low. So in sum God put us here to be tested and to experience what we call life, no way should anyone kill themselves no matter how much they want to because there not in a position to see the big picture. Try find some good friends/as I’m trying and you will get happy, trust me thats what I’m doing and you should to. As about the ill people getting better It’s because there glad there loved ones are alive, you can still love on earth, flip just realised my answer is jumbled as, sorry man hope that helped just slow down and try understand.

  • Very thoughtful question. My religion teaches that God loves us so much that He wants every single solitary person to have the very best answer for him/herself at the judgment seat of God, so He takes each and every single solitaray person to Himself when He knows we are the very best we’ll ever be….and He knows our hearts and minds and souls well enough to know when that is for every single solitary individual….If He leaves us here on this earth, it means we still have some improving to do, and God is giving us the chance we need to have a better outcome at the judgement of our soul…..

    I don’t fear death; I have a great peacefulness about it, but I know I have to get certain things done in this life, and I want the time to get them done….plus, even though I know it’s spiritually better for me to be in heaven, emotionally, I want t stay with the people I love on earth…Altogether, I trust God totallly and completely to find my best moment for me….and that’s also why suicide is so bad…..Those who commit suicide take it upon themselves to “do” the work (decide life and death) that is only God’s to do. Nobody is smarter than God for knowing when a person’s soul is at its best, and it certainly cannot possibly be at its best after killing someone, so I’m glad to hear that you don’t think you’ll do that. Good choice….!!!

    God bless you on your path to health, and strength and love and peace and joy….they are all there waiting for you to claim them….They’ll come to you if you keep seeking…

  • God created earthly life, and as such, it is meant to be viewed as worth preserving and worth living. All over the Bible, having a long and prosperous life is regarded as a “blessing” and a good thing. And when Jesus healed someone of a sickness or raised someone from the dead, He was in essence showing some level of agreement with the idea that there was value and something good about being alive here and now.

    Paul the apostle talked about this a little bit in the book of Philippians where He wrote, “For me, to live is Christ, but to die is gain…” He was saying that as long as He was alive here on Earth, that He would live out of His relationship with Christ (aka, to “live is Christ” in Paul’s world) but at the same time, He knew that something even better awaited him in Heaven.

    He went on to talk about how he had a hard time choosing sometimes, because for himself, he knew it was better to get to depart the Earth, but for those who loved him and who he was teaching to follow God, it was better if he stuck around. And this, is the real reason that people grieve – it is a human thing called “attachment.” Humans are designed by God as social creatures who form attachments to one another. When we lose a loved one to death, even if we know they are in a “better place” – we still are attached to them. We still miss them intensely. We looked forward to having them in our life here on Earth, and now they are gone.

    Paul said that since he knew it was better for his friends’ sake if he remained, that God was going to keep him around at least for a little while so he could help them. And this is good to keep in mind – we’re not here just for ourselves. We’re here to bless God by loving Him from this Earthly plane, and we’re here to love, help, and serve others – and it’s considered a blessing from God the longer we get to be here to do those two things, because once we’re gone, we’re gone – and while we’re in Heaven forever, the only chance we have to make a difference on Earth is while we are still down here. What we do/ did here, or did not do here, we take with us into all eternity.

  • In Philippians 1:21, the apostle Paul wrote: “To live is Christ, to die is gain.” but that doesn’t mean we should seek an early death. Instead, Paul was telling us that Christians shouldn’t fear death. The Bible also tells us when we’re absent from the body, we’re present with the Lord.
    This is all well and good.
    But Christians must also remember that they are the hands of God, doing his work among men and women, ministering to them and carrying the word of salvation to a dead and dieing world.
    Yes, it will be glorious to one day stand in the presence of God, but wouldn’t it be even better if he looked down upon us and said, “Well done, my good and faithful servant”?
    Life often does seem pointless and cruel, and both attitudes are often the work of Satan working through the world around us.
    And, yes, there are many suffering and abused children in the world, just as there are suffering and abused adults as well.
    What you need to understand is that as a Christian, you can help improve these problems, even if it is for one individual. You can reach out and bring not only the love of God into their life, but also help fight the depression that you indicate often troubles you as well.
    Let me encourage you to continue with your therapist, and your medications, but also to seek God’s guidance, comfort and healing as well.

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