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I need spiritual advice on dealing with my cheating husband…?

I have been praying, and praying and praying. My ego wants to lash out on him and the other women, but I know that will only bring more chaos. He refuses to give me a divorce and I cannot continue to stay with a man who refuses to be loyal. I am trying to wait on God to move in my marriage, but I am also tired of being taking advantage of. Pray my strength in the Lord. Any scriptures that I may have overlooked will be helpful.

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  • I’ve been married for twelve years and my husband has been

    cheating for twelve years. I only been fully happy in my

    marriage for about the first three months. We have three

    children together who are still very young. My husband does

    not cheat with one woman, but many. Recently, for my

    birthday my husband took me out to dinner but found out

    a month later, he took another woman out for her birthday

    and brought her a gift. I forgave him and still will always

    forgive him for this is right in God’s sight and I love him. I will

    never trust him again. I am not fully happy. I cry many nights

    and think that I am the worst person, wife, and mother ever!!!

    I try my best to please him, but nothing I do is good enough. I

    sleep in the living room because I feel so bad,, but we still

    sleep together. I can see that my children are affected by our

    relationship. I am thinking of leaving him in six months. Why

    six months? I need to pray and a plan so it can be done right

    if this is the will of God.

    Do you think God reveal to me that my husband is cheating

    so that I can move on with my life? Do you think that my low

    self-esteem can have something to do him cheating? My

    husband has never admitted that he cheats. Why is that?

  • my husband keep on cheating me..at first he was forgiven because i believe second chances but still he cheats again w/ another woman .as easy as that..he is an OFW and the girl too.he said to keep me relax because he didnt make any expense from his salary.he said i have to understand his situations being far from a family.

  • If u really want your marriage, God will give u the desire of your heart. My husband left me with 3 kids after I found out he was talking 2 another woman. I refused 2 give up on my marriage. I started reading God’s Word everyday, like Daniel in the bible I prayed 3 times a day…along with my kids, I fasted from food every other day & I listened 2 praise music every moment I could. Within 2 months my husband was back home. I’m a witness of the miracles God can do.

  • am not yet mairred to him. but we are about to wed, now he cheating on me, when i go to work he care of caling me like he use to. an when he get home he sleep an say dat is very tried, so i dont know what to do, pls kindly help me.

  • I need prayers and scriptures that will change my husband forever not for a time and then he goes bag to unfaithful ways again.because today he is faithful tomorrow he is unfaithful. where can i find a lasting solution or do i tell God to give me a lasting solution.
    shilah

  • Great advice you’re talking about it so others will know! Will use for sure. But, I never thought of it before, but later learned, you have to bring about the situation that first brought you together and also stop doing a lot of mistakes we all do at first if you want to save your marriage

  • He doesn’t want to give you a divorce because legally you would have to pay him spousal support (unless you go to court and prove your case) “that’s the way it is with the one who begins the divorce” but divorce on the case of adultery is biblical, although God hates divorce He has permitted it because as He says “because your hearts are hardened” but He was talking to the Jews of the days of moses, God prefers forgiveness for one another, of course I would divorce myself for the cause of unfaithfulness, but I might give a second chance first.

  • Yes, in Matt 19:1-12 you will find your answer. God provides and allows for divorce, “if a man puts his wife away due to adultery”, Study the word on Divorce…use a concordance and God will guide you. Keep in mind, you can file for a divorce, your spouse does not have to agree; however, the courts will grant it to you in a year anyway. Stay in prayer.

  • God helps those who help themselves.

    File for divorce. He can make it difficult, but he can’t force you to stay married to him.

  • You have every right biblically to divorce this man and every biblical right to re-marry when and if you choose to.You can continue to pray for God to change him but we all have what is called the human “will” and that is something that we as individuals have to deal with for ones self, if he has no desire to change then that is what he will do (continue in sin) not to mention he could bring home a disease and give it to you, God forbid, but this is something you need to think about, if there are children involved his behavior is only injuring them and damaging their lives more so than a divorce would, he is a terrible example of a godly man to them and not the man God called him to be as a husband. One of the ten commandments that God gave us is Thou shalt not commit adultry. There are many referances in the bible to this, and God condones divorce only in this case.
    Exodus 20:14
    Proverbs 6:32
    Matt. 5:27-28
    Matt. 20:18
    Mark 10:19
    Luke 18:20
    Lev. 20:10
    Be at peace and know that whatever you decide to do in this matter as long as it is not morally wrong against your own soul, God will be on your side and help you through all things.

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